salam guys. my baby girl is 1 month and 15 days and i mst say it has been a rollercoaster ride. i had so many expectations but my baby was tottally opposite to it, to my dismay. she is not at all a sound sleeper and worse of all she dusnt sleep much throught out the day like others.she sleps i4 not more than 10,20min or m ax half our. i was ready for her to b up all nite but she dusnt even sleep durin the day which leaves me very frustrated cus i cant do mch of housework and all.
she cringes and pulls up her legs and arms alot and her face becomes red as if she is puttin alot of pressure i thot she mst b havin gas prb becus of the way she cringes her whole body. doc didnt say she is colic but has given her colicaid for times she cries alot. well.. i have alot of prbs related to her but i never get time to sit down even for a sec and thaz no exaggeration.. trust me idun even go to bathroom or get the time to even brush my teeth becus of her.
my actual prb is at nite she is v v restless. pls dun say its common. i work so damn hard to get her to sleep and once i lay her down she opens her eyes or wakes up. if she dusnt then she moves her body ALOT. ive never seen her in deep sleep. if at all she sleeps within 2 mins she strts movin her hands and legs while eyes closed and is restless. i pat her on her back to get her back to sleep and voila within 5 mins she moves again… its such a vicious cycle. my mil tells me to ignore her movin and makin noises till she cries but i cant do that even i m a v bad sleeper i wake up at the drop of a pin and she is just like me but i m not restless. if i do ignore her she wakes up and cries. i m goin crazy here thinkin why i had to have a baby like this. y cant she sleep in day time… since shes born never has she ever slept for a full hour let alone 3-4 hrs or more like other babies do. wot can i do i m so frustrated and angry… y cant i get her to sleep atleast in day time. this is really affectin me and my relationship with her. i m never relaxed and dun find myself lovin her mch. i feel so guilty not being able to love her lke other mothers or bondin with her
you are tired I can understand what you must be going through.
my baby was same for 3-4 months.
she pulling up her legs is a sign of colic . if you are giving her formula milk what you can do is boil the water (a utensil full) with 3-4 pieces of saunf. let the saunf give off it’s extracts. it has done wonders for my baby.
do you have any family living in your city ? esp your mom or your sister ? request someone trust worthy to help you visit and stay with you for a few days so that you can get some rest. It is very important that you take some rest.
motherhood is tough. I can relate to your feelings. Things will get better I promise you
First of all stop feeling guilty. My daughter is 2 months 2 weeks now & I still get tired sometimes & just want some alone time. Its all normal. You are already devoting all your time to your baby. That IS love.
As far as the sleeping is concerned since she is 7 weeks old now. Does she wakes up because she needs to be fed every now & then. Are you BFing her? Could it be that she doesn't get enough milk & gets hungry & wakes up?
Besides that you need to start establishing a day & night pattern for her. We started doing that with Ibtehal when she was a month old. Although it was hard at that time. Lights dim after 9:00 pm. TV on low volume & less shor sharaba. Middle of the night feedings don't talk to the baby. Do everything in a hush hush way & put her to sleep. We would do the opposite at day time. As soon as its 7:30 in the morning. That's when hubby leaves for work. We open all the blinds in the house to let light come in. If hubby by chance forgets it then I do it around 9:00 am in the morning depending on if I woke up to feed the baby. I talk to her as much as I can.
Babies in the womb don't know anything about being active at day time & sleep at night time. You guys will need to teach her the difference so YOU can mantain your sanity. Its hard work but is so worth it. You don't want your daughter to be sleeping during the day so she can sleep at night. Most babies do not sleep all day long by this age. She'll need more than just feeding & diaper changes at this age. That is talking to her. It would take 7-10 days of hard work & she'll eventually learn the difference.
Also another thing besides dimming the lights in the house. If possible give her a bath. Probably give her warm milk if Formula feeding. Swaddle her nicely & make sure she is not too cold. If you do all this things every night at the same time. She'll eventually learning that its sleeping time now.
Now the whole cringing & becoming red part. I am not sure but my daughter used to do it all the time. Well she still does it. Initially we thought she had gas problem or was constipated but her poopy seemed fine. Does she do this while being fed & then ends up having a poopy diaper eventually? Before I type anything more let us know how often she does that.
aww poor you, I can totally relate to you. I used to walk around like a zombie after my hubby started going to work. The best thing would be to get some help, I hope you can. if not then it is bit of up hill bettle but trust me there is light at the end of the tunnel, my son started sleeping peacfully only around 2 yera sold. I am sorry to disspoint you but some kids are like that. Even now if I have to sleep with him for some reason I CAN NOT SLEEP, he moves a lot and now he talk too.
Try to calm down firts you might be transfering your own anxiety to your child(which I think I did unfortunately) try to establish a routine, that way the day is more predicatbale for your child and she will feel safe, and hopefully things will fall in place.
We thought my son was colic, everybody said no he is not, I didn't believe anyone did some research and got him dr. brown bottles. he was tad bit better after that.
** Does she wakes up because she needs to be fed every now & then. Are you BFing her? Could it be that she doesn't get enough milk & gets hungry & wakes up? **
for the first 15-20 days when she was born i did just that.. feed her whenever she cried. i m bfeeding her. trust me i took her to atleast 3 different docs and all said she is abs fine. maybe a bit colic but nothin more and i was goin totally INSANE that why she is so different than other newborns. i m still frustrated that she dusnt sleep in day time. atleast i can give time to myself but whole day i m with her and soemtimes i feel like cryin cus i m missin out on small things in life. docs told me its not necessry she wants to b fed whenever she cries so i tried rockin her and all and yeah smetimes she cries cus of sleep but i hate that i have to MAKE her sleep. why cant babies sleep on their own if they wanna sleep.. its like who is stoppin u frm sleepin!!!!
** Besides that you need to start establishing a day & night pattern for her. We started doing that with Ibtehal when she was a month old. Although it was hard at that time. Lights dim after 9:00 pm. TV on low volume & less shor sharaba. Middle of the night feedings don't talk to the baby. Do everything in a hush hush way & put her to sleep. We would do the opposite at day time. As soon as its 7:30 in the morning. That's when hubby leaves for work. We open all the blinds in the house to let light come in. If hubby by chance forgets it then I do it around 9:00 am in the morning depending on if I woke up to feed the baby. I talk to her as much as I can. **
i hardly get to sleep so i sleeep with her from morning time 6am utill 4pm. but all this time she is in commotion. she wakes up and i take another 1 1.2 hrs atleast to get her to sleep again and once i lay her down she moves and makes faces and then i pat her.. then 5 mins later again she moves.. its horrible. so basically only daytime with her is after 4pm. and i dun talk to her also. i feel so silly to talk to her like.. she dusnt understand and all. i m also so frustrated i dun wanna talk to he r.
** You don't want your daughter to be sleeping during the day so she can sleep at night. Most babies do not sleep all day long by this age. She'll need more than just feeding & diaper changes at this age. That is talking to her. It would take 7-10 days of hard work & she'll eventually learn the difference. **
that is the prb she dusnt sleep in day time.. that is why i m goin nuts here. merely 10, 20 or max 30 mins at best and same way at nite also. why is she like that
*Swaddle her nicely & make sure she is not too cold. If you do all this things every night at the same time. She'll eventually learning that its sleeping time now. *
i tried that too but she is so hyper active kicks her legs and always takes out her hands. this only worked for 10 days after her birth but not now. i discontinued and strted 2-3 days back again but she cries and kicks and all.
**Now the whole cringing & becoming red part. I am not sure but my daughter used to do it all the time. Well she still does it. Initially we thought she had gas problem or was constipated but her poopy seemed fine. Does she do this while being fed & then ends up having a poopy diaper eventually? Before I type anything more let us know how often she does that.
**only once she did this. made faces and all then passed gas 2 times. but i think this mite b the case. i m thinkin of givin her few drops of saunf water.. wot do u think. my mil says she will get a cold becus of that.
aww poor you, I can totally relate to you. I used to walk around like a zombie after my hubby started going to work. The best thing would be to get some help, I hope you can. if not then it is bit of up hill bettle but trust me there is light at the end of the tunnel, my son started sleeping peacfully only around 2 yera sold. I am sorry to disspoint you but some kids are like that. Even now if I have to sleep with him for some reason I CAN NOT SLEEP, he moves a lot and now he talk too.
Try to calm down firts you might be transfering your own anxiety to your child(which I think I did unfortunately) try to establish a routine, that way the day is more predicatbale for your child and she will feel safe, and hopefully things will fall in place.
We thought my son was colic, everybody said no he is not, I didn't believe anyone did some research and got him dr. brown bottles. he was tad bit better after that.
i m bf her and i want to strt bottle feedin too and that is another story alltogether she is soo stubborn. when she was born she wud take bottle cus i was c section so cudnt feed her for few days.. did give her colustrum though. then i bf her and didnt give bottle but i strted tryin again after she was more than 15 days and more but she wudnt take the bottle. its so frustration cus i m tied to her all the time. and i feed her and then within 15-20 mins she is cryin again. i have abundant supply so milk is not a prb at all. i dunno how to get her to take formula milk. she takes the milk when she is in mood.. mostly when she is not v hungry she takes it ... but mostly when she is cryin she never ever takes it. i dunno how to strt. i tried givin her formula milk once a day but she is not cooperating. i dun wanna thrust the bootle in her moth but at the same time iwant her to strt with the bottle. any suggestions
i din understand how much water shd it b there … i dun formula feed her. someone told me to give her drops only so how mch water shud it b for drops. they also told me to make the water fresh everyday. but my mil said its not gud to give direct cus the saunf has thandi taaseer and she will get cold. they said its better to give gripe water.
try drinking saunf and ajwain water yourself, it'll pass through your milk to her...also elevate her moses basket or crib, as lying flat causes the gas/colic.
my son was the same, he actually had gastric reflux and only got better after the doctor prescribed infant gaviscon
you can always give her gripe water... and if she is using bottle feeding then switch a vented bottle like dr.browns... my son wasnt colic but he had reflux... his food would come right back up or far enough in the throat to make it uncomfy for him lying down... ure case sounds a lot like mine... have ure daughter checked out for reflux... once i switched to dr.browns, my son slept like a peach. but if ure not bottlef eeding ure girl, then burp her a lot after bfeeding... keep her straight up for atleast 10 mins.. and then put her down... feed her semi raised in an almost sitting position.. put pillows under ure lap or feed in a rocking chair.
Mall I'll write a detailed answer for you later some time in the evening. Mean while stay calm. The more you get frustrated the harder it will become for you to handle the baby.
Also try to tackle one thing at a time. Your baby doesn't wanna take formula because of the taste difference or the nipple difference? If its the taste difference then try mixing 75 % expressed milk with 25% formula & slowly & gradually start increasing the formula ratio.
3 tips 4 u mall !
1.be sure shez not getting up coz of hunger.satisfy her appetite.at dis stage she shud be fed after every 4hrs.
2.give her gripe water half tea spoon mixed wid arq-e-sounff(half tea spoon) b4 u give her feed once a day,
3.afew babies stay restless till 4 months n after dat dey settle down so be at ease.give COW & GATE INFANT1 or LACTOGEN 1 or S26-GOLD.thz r preferably top feedz if mother feed iz not enuff 4 da baby.
dont keep da top feed made for more dan 1 hr plus dont mix mother feed wid top feed az it wud make da contents of mother feed useless.
i hope thz tips would be of sum help :)
mall.. its summer. yes saunf has a thandi taseer but it will not harm her in the summer.. infact its good.. i give my son saunf water just to cool him down in this heat. saunf and mint water.. its great for stomach cramping and to battle inner heat.
mall.. its summer. yes saunf has a thandi taseer but it will not harm her in the summer.. infact its good.. i give my son saunf water just to cool him down in this heat. saunf and mint water.. its great for stomach cramping and to battle inner heat.
pls suggest how mch water and saunf if i make it daily fresh? diamond said 1.5 litre but thaz alota water.. i wanna make it fresh for her.
Mall I'll write a detailed answer for you later some time in the evening. Mean while stay calm. The more you get frustrated the harder it will become for you to handle the baby.
Also try to tackle one thing at a time. Your baby doesn't wanna take formula because of the taste difference or the nipple difference? If its the taste difference then try mixing 75 % expressed milk with 25% formula & slowly & gradually start increasing the formula ratio.
honestly bint i have no clue why she dusnt accept formula. it cud be anything. i have so many prbs rite now i dunno which one to deal with first.. i m noticin as shes growin shes becomin difficult. when she was born she was difficult too and wudnt sleep but now she is becomin so ziddi and all. last nite she cried for 2-3 hrs at a strech for no reason. i feed her so thaz not the prb plus if shes hungry she sucks on her fingers. sometimes she cries sooo hard that for a sec she wud hold her breath while cryin. its scary for me. ill wait for ur reply. btw thanks alot for ur PM. sorry havent ben able to rpely back. the monster is sleepin so found the time to reply.
3 tips 4 u mall !
1.be sure shez not getting up coz of hunger.satisfy her appetite.at dis stage she shud be fed after every 4hrs.
2.give her gripe water half tea spoon mixed wid arq-e-sounff(half tea spoon) b4 u give her feed once a day,
3.afew babies stay restless till 4 months n after dat dey settle down so be at ease.give COW & GATE INFANT1 or LACTOGEN 1 or S26-GOLD.thz r preferably top feedz if mother feed iz not enuff 4 da baby.
dont keep da top feed made for more dan 1 hr plus dont mix mother feed wid top feed az it wud make da contents of mother feed useless.
i hope thz tips would be of sum help :)
how do i make arq e saunf.. u mean i shud boil some water with saunf
i live in UAE never heard of these formula brands. i bought nestle NAN for her but half of the can was wasted cus whenever i wud make feed for her she wudnt take the bottle. thanks for ur tips
v interestin thred.. thx alot diamond!! hugs!! so ur daughter was colic.. can u tell me when did her colic period finish then… did it take 3-4 months like ppl told u in the thread. pls do share ur experience
i didnt understand wot sayyma wrote in ur thread diamond:
1 tesspoons fenel seed, 1 teaspoon ajwain seed boil in water for 10 min , and drain all water give this to ur baby with dropper or spoon, its help, when my little one had same problem, also try give him /her massage on tummy
if i take out all the water then wot will i give to my daughter?? sorry am confused.
you can always give her gripe water... and if she is using bottle feeding then switch a vented bottle like dr.browns... my son wasnt colic but he had reflux... his food would come right back up or far enough in the throat to make it uncomfy for him lying down... ure case sounds a lot like mine... have ure daughter checked out for reflux... once i switched to dr.browns, my son slept like a peach. but if ure not bottlef eeding ure girl, then burp her a lot after bfeeding... keep her straight up for atleast 10 mins.. and then put her down... feed her semi raised in an almost sitting position.. put pillows under ure lap or feed in a rocking chair.
i think it sounds like reflux.. ask ure doc..
no i m breastfeedin her but ive been tryin to give her bottle for a v long time but sometimes she wud take it and sometimes not. but i wud say 70 percent of times she dusnt take it esp if she is cryin hysterically. any tips on how i cud get her to take the bottle .. i m tired of her clingin to my breast all the time. i cn do nothin becus of her.. no time for myself
