So my 14 month old does not sleep in her cot. Tbh, I have not put much effort in trying to get her used to sleeping in her crib. Now my second baby is due in mid may. Is it too late for baby to gey used to sleeping in her own bed? Any tips? I seriously cant think of sleeping with two babies :/.
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awww. that’s sweet. second baby, crib from start beta!
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My 18 month old all of a sudden has refused his crib. He wants to sleep on the big bed. I converted his crib to a toddler bed but no luck. So finally I took him to the guest bedroom this afternoon. After playing for a good half an hour he is finally asleep.
I am exausted. I am clueless what to do at night. I know he will not go in his crib/bed. I am not mentally ready for him to sleep in the guest bedroom all by himself. 
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^ i know what you mean. My baby refuses the crib as well. We’re a tight fit in our queen size bed. Ive resorted to putting his mattress down on the bedroom floor and put him down there. It works for half the night only though.
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no advice really… just that i think the earlier you start, with anything, the better.
My first child always loved being on her own. She needs someone, even now, to just sit with her for a few minutes before going to bed and then she’s ok..
the second… he sleeps in his cot for most of the night but then wakes up for a cuddle and if he’s not well, wants to sleep next to me on the bed.. but I dont bring him back in our bed. We have a spare bed in his room… so I just put him down there. It’s dangerous however… at 17 months, he’s able to move around and fall out of bed… I do not advise this at all… I try staying awake until he’s fast asleep so I can tuck him back into his cot…
again… no real advise.. sorry
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Hmm uff the most annoying part is she kicks my tummy the whole night so I avoid sleeping facing her which results in terrible body ache due to sleeping on just one side.
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Dem I knowww I guess I’ll have to train the next one now. Ye laadli tu nahi sudhre g :/.
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It IS NOT too late.
If you’re able to take one side of the crib off, put it up against your bed and make her sleep in that (or in a toddler bed). Get her used to it, and then slowly move it away (away from your bed or into another room, whatever you guys are planning).
She’s still very little, but maybe you can start emphasizing the big girl bedtime routine. Add something new and positive that she will love, so that she doesn’t just feel like you’re taking something away from her.
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have you tried moving her to the crib once she is asleep. Thats what we had to do for a short time when he was trying to co sleep with us. Now he is sooo used to his crib that he doesn’t want to sleep with us at all and runs to the crib. His refusal started around 18-20 months of age. You just have to be a little strong. move her back as many times as you have to.
Totally reminded me of this video:
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Yeah I am doing this now .. moving her in to crib once she’s asleep. InshaAllah will try my best to get her used to it before baby no. 2 makes the entry.
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let baby sleep with you once in deep sleep move her into her cot i have to do this myself
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chic honey, i dont believe that priority needs to be given to second baby as far as sleeping together goes. as far as I have learned, babies sleep anywhere for the first three four months. As long as they are well wrapped they are easier to fool into believing another person is sleeping next to them. A pillow suffices. Your elder kid however is coming into a personality or her/his own. You need to work on her/his needs more. The new baby will just need feed, diaper, sleep and repeat. Over and over. Your elder one will have more needs. You need to keep her with you I think. The younger will find his or her own place. You don’t be too worried honey. BUT FOCUS A LOT on elder.
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Thats quite an awful advice. A newborn baby requires lot of attention be it a first or second born. Plus you’re not even suppose to put a pillow anywhere near a sleeping baby for the risk of SIDS.
Its funny how you said that just wrap the baby and he will be easier to fool.
SO2 has given practical and great advice which I have personally tried as well.
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Ash you and I may differ. It is tried and tested advice as I am a mother too. A wrapped baby doesn’t smother. Thank u
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Dem is right that the newborn requires less attention in a lot of ways than the older child. A swaddled and sleeping newborn can usually be put down anywhere. It’s the toddler that will have preferences and feelings that the parents have to be attentive to.
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Agree with Dem and Sahar on most parts… however, I would advise against the pillow next to the baby… You can leave the newborn in a bouncer.. I found that to be the handiest tool around the house for the first 3 months… and later my portable bassinet was handy.
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is everyone forgetting that in the first 3 months the infants normally only sleep for 2-3hours, have to be feed every few hours as well…and all of this happens during the night. So while they are asleep the infant might be easier to deal with…but will require constant care regardless (unlike the older kids.)
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^ I guess every child is different. Babies do wake up every 2-3 hours BUT they don’t stay awake for long. During the first couple of weeks they sleep majority of the time.
And unless they need to be fed or have their diaper changed they won’t usually cry.
Actually being a parent of a 3 year old and a 1 year old I beg to differ. Older kids DO require constant care and attention. Other moms of older kids will second this.
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^ but that’s the point, wouldn’t moving the older baby into the crib and making them a little less depend be a little helpful at this point. If not now, then when?
Mother focusing on the elder and ignoring the baby… Wouldn’t that become a habit then and the toddler would expect the attention. Wouldn’t that be a horrible pattern to start? Keep ignoring the baby because the toddler needs your help. And when the 3 month is over what then???
I am sorry, I disagree. I wouldn’t want to start a ‘pattern’ from the moment the second one arrives
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I was simply commenting on what you said about an older child not needing care/attention like an infant does. 
Now regarding the baby not sleeping in the crib - OP it’s not too late. You’ve just gotta be consistent and have patience. Put her down in her crib at bedtime. Give her the bottle. If she gets up and cries don’t take her out, just comfort her a little while she’s still in the crib and put her down again. Might take a couple of days but she’ll get used to it.