We successfullly CIOd (cried it out) with my daughter when she was 6 months. I had to wait that long because we were travling/moving and the books i read said to wait till a baby is 4 months and you are at a stable locations for at least 3-4 weeks.
She was doing fantastic after about 2-3 weeks, we could put her in the crib at night, she’d fall asleep i worked on naps and she stopped waking at night except at 4/5 am to eat.
i was on the cusp of decciding i should get rid of the 4/5 am feed and use water when she got sick..and had diarrhea for 9-10 days. during that time i did alot of holding her, comforting and basically lbeing there since she had a tough time sleeping…and now we’re back to square 1…maybe 1.5 she can’t sleep on her own…and we’re starting again.
well i did it with my daughter.but every child is diff.It did work at times but then whenever we got a bit linient she was back in our bed then we had to start all over.finally we gav up n shes been sleeping with us until now.but now that shes 3 I am making her go back to her bed.even though she hates it n cries but shes old enuf to understand my words.n does sleep in her room.
So i'll say keep ur baby in ur room,near ur bed but in her crib.Once she's older she'll cooperate more.To tell u the truth i hate cio.
Mines is 1.4 years and well she sleeps with me or with hubby, now she doesnt wake up during night, just to have her milk which is ready by my side. I dont feel comfortable with the CIO method. When she is ready she will sleep in her crib, right now we both love to have her sleep next to us.
mine is 18 mnths and he sleeps in his bed,sometimes he wakes up and comes to our bed but not every day.Well i go with him in his room and he usually play about half an hour and when he is ready to asleep i give him bottle of milk and he fell sleep .But it took us 2 mnths for him to understand that its night time and he needs to sleep but alhamdulillah he is fine now.
My daughter will b 3 next month and i remember doing the controlled crying thing when she was abt 6 months. From what i remember for the 1st week and a bit it was horrendous but then she just got used to it and sleeps on her own eva since with no drama. I followed the Gina Ford contented baby guide when my daughter was 6 months cos she tells u how to do this and it did work. Allah ka shukar hai i neva had problems since then. I never had my daughter our bed. Shes always been in her crib and then cot in her own room which every1 thought was really bad but it worked out that way for us.
I dont have any kids of my own but i do have experience with children.....i have 9 nieces and nephews (Alhamdulillah).
I highly recommend reading the book "solve your child's sleep problems" by Richard Ferber. My sister's used his method for ALL their kids and it worked!! It's a much better alternative to the "crying it out method" but it takes a lot patience. The earlier you do this method the better.
I'm one of those moms who are typically critisized because I see nothing wrong with my little ones needing a warm body or comfort. They slept with mama and dada till age 3 and my eldest still comes in to our bed most nights. They do go in to their own beds at bedtime but if they wake and need comfort then they get it. I personally think this gives them a feeling of security with the knowledge that we'll be there for them whenever they feel they need us. Yeah, I let it go on too long since the eldest is almost 6 now but I think its done more good than harm.
ahhh well thankfully she's going to sleep at 730 at night without a peep..waking just to eat at 4 am then sleeping till 7 am.
It's naps that are tough..the last 3 days she skips her pm naps...sooo tired but won't sleep...i've tried to get her to crib early, tried hodling her, tried paci nothing..i'll blame it on post sickness b/c night sleeping is going well.
Thanks for the ferber rec, i read his book. i actually have Jodi mindell sleeping through the night..she takes Ferber and Weisbleth and a bit of the BAby whisperer and joins it all together...:) good explanation of sleep.
Mama of 3 - i would have agreed with you but until i cio'd at 6 months my daughter was waking repeatedly throughout the night...9, 11,1,2 and 4 and 5...it was exhausting..usually on 2-3x but up to 5 or 6...i had to do something about it.
Mama of 3 - i would have agreed with you but until i cio'd at 6 months my daughter was waking repeatedly throughout the night...9, 11,1,2 and 4 and 5...it was exhausting..usually on 2-3x but up to 5 or 6...i had to do something about it.
does she take the pacifier or keep anything with her that may cause her to get up and look for it in the middle of the night?
when we cio'd the first time she basically got to the point she didn't need the pacifier...but if we give it and it stays in she likes sleeping with it...sort of a mood thing with her. The thing with her is the paci will be in her hand but she won't stick it back in her mouth when looking for it...even though she can mouth it normall! :) she's doing well back to only waking 1x a night to eat at 4/5ish..
she can’t sleep on her own…and we’re starting again.