im the eldest daughter in my family… and ive been secretly envious of my younger sisters relationship with my dad… its a very ‘youngest child being a baby and getting all the attention’ kinda relationship… which i dont mind.. but they have something that i dont with my dad… i mean she’ll go sit next to him and wont care… whereas i have a problem sitting next to any male except my bro… its really odd… i think i have serious issues..
neways… for the past year or more.. ive noticed that me and my dad have this unspoken love for each other.. and i noticed this cus everytime my sis or bro attack me with brutal insults, hes the first to stop them… or when my mama is having a go at me for losing my ginger in the salan… he’ll be like… ‘stop!’ hehe… thats the only time he raises his voice..
then last week… my dad offered to go on a walk with me.. (cus i go on my own each nite) .. so i was like… huh?! me and my dad.. go out! what would i talk about?! how do i react?.. i was confused… neways we went… and i seriously think it was the best time i ever had.. (even though it lasted only 20minutes)… we spoke a bit.. about a guy.. wierd.. then we spent the next 15 odd minutes not talking at all.. or if anything how many minutes it took us to get to a point..
while i was walking.. i realised having my dad around.. i felt nothing could hurt me (usually on my own i freak out at every sound.. half the time my hearts racing cus i think i saw someone following me).. but yeah with my dad i felt protected.. secure.. at ease.. just lovely
i know im wierd… but do any of u gals (or guys) have a wierd kinda unspoken relationship with ur dad?
i am blessed with the most awesome father.. hes my lil angel... my personal problem solver.. literally my bestfriend an he is my little piece of universe.. I love my ami too a lott.. but my abu is my bestest friend....
My dad would be what you describe as a very open person. Doesnt talk too much, but often enough to tell us about life, and his experiences, and what we should learn from them. Not to mention several points that we must remember always. Such a sweetiepie. Mash'Allah.
I wasnt close to mom growing up, but I decided to get close to her when I grew older, and I believe its one of the wisest choices I ever made. smile
I'm the baby of the family so I do have the kind of relationship your younger sister has with your dad. I have that kind of relationship with both my parents actually. There's a lot of affection and communication between me and my folks which both my elder siblings do not have with my parents.
My dad does go out of his way to give them both hugs, but it's extremely difficult for my elder siblings to initiate any type of affection ... it's easy for me though.
Matsui, I think it relates to the age difference between the siblings. If you and your sister are within 3 years apart in age difference, then I think you will have been treated similarly. With me and my siblings, there is a fairly large age gap ... but them two are only 2 years apart ... they were treated the same .. and actually are very similar. Not only is my relationship completely different with my folks ... but I am completely different than my siblings. :)
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i am blessed with the most awesome father.. hes my lil angel... my personal problem solver.. literally my bestfriend an he is my little piece of universe.. I love my ami too a lott.. but my abu is my bestest friend....
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i couldnt have described my relatonship with my dad better:)
actually... im very affectionate with my mama... its a completely different story there... but i trust my dad's advice and experience more than my mama's :)
ur rite Mehnaz... me and my bro had a very different relationship with dad.. but its very open in terms of talking about problems and things.. just when it comes down to getting hugs on eid... uh oh! hehe
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sadzz, be warned, he's thinking of carting you off. :p
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Sadzz, i'm going to have to agree with RT!
i love my dad, definitely more than my mom (and i think everyone knows it too)! but we really have this unspoken love...we barely ever talk, but i know how much he loves me, cuz i'm his only 'little gudia'. my bros dont have the same special relationship with my dad that i do!
he's absolutely wonderful! and he's the only man that can put up with my nakhray just about with everything.
i love my dad, definitely more than my mom (and i think everyone knows it too)! but we really have this unspoken love...we barely ever talk, but i know how much he loves me, cuz i'm his only 'little gudia'. my bros dont have the same special relationship with my dad that i do!
he's absolutely wonderful! and he's the only man that can put up with my nakhray just about with everything.
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hehe yeah my dads the only man who will willingly drive an hour to pick me up from somewhere.... who covers up all my mistakes.. love him! hehe
Awww what a cute thread, I love my father, he the sweetest most understanding adult I know, sooo mild tempered, and the best plus is that he loves to spend his money on me…I could talk to him though its nothing deep but its not a silent relationship either.
my dad is an exact opposite. i can never talk to him about anything cuz every thing finishes at i am your dad and if you don't agree with me you'll be damnded.
Extremely short tempered and me n him are like oil n water. Mums cool though, she n i have fun.
Oh n other thing he lectures like hell. the other day he was scolding me (thats our only conversation) and i was listening then after a while i switched off and after 20 minutes i was like so why am i here?
And he's like that with all of us! lucky huh'
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my dad is an exact opposite. i can never talk to him about anything cuz every thing finishes at i am your dad and if you don't agree with me you'll be damnded.
Extremely short tempered and me n him are like oil n water. Mums cool though, she n i have fun.
Oh n other thing he lectures like hell. the other day he was scolding me (thats our only conversation) and i was listening then after a while i switched off and after 20 minutes i was like so why am i here?
And he's like that with all of us! lucky huh'
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hehe dont worry... a lot of kids have relationships like that with their dad's... so its very normal.. how old are u though? just curious
sadzz you described the exact same relationship I have with my dad except that he’s same with my siblings!!
