Hello,
Not sure if I should post this in this forum or the wedding one.
Anyhow, I am a little confused as to what exactly is happening. So significant other’s mother recently told him in his short visit to see her that when they come here for his graduation they want to meet my parents. Recently, she had been asking him to talk to me about it and see what would be more suitable as from their side they have no issues with this rishta (they haven’t met myself or my family or even spoken to us BUT my mother and I have met his elder sister and my mother has met him and talks to him quite often) so after discussing and planning we came to the conclusion that it will be more suitable if his parents firstly get in touch with mine and coordinate to meet once theyre in the country (my family and his is scattered all over the place - my father also lives abroad).
So, upon hearing this his mother asks that they are willing to call/meet anything etc., but she got him to ask me to ask my parents whether this is going to be a casual meeting ya phir “woh seedha seedha hath manglein”
after discussing this with my family they also said that they have no obligations and are satisfied with my choice but bas milna reh gaya tha AND since my dad doesnt live here, and his family doesnt either they will be more satisfied if this meeting is something more than casual.. so his mommy asking for my hand..
I am confused, what does this mean? IS this a baat pakki or what? My parents are equally confused on what to do as I am the first in the family and prior to me everyone in the family had an arranged marriage so theyre a little panicky
Re: Baat pakki type of thing
Take it easy, it would have been better if the first meeting is just casual but even if it is not, it’s okay.
Just entertain them as you would do a potential match, usually there is an exchange of gifts if they ask for you hand, so keep some stuff as gift like ring, watch, clothes etc
Re: Baat pakki type of thing
I really wish that was possible but theyre only here for 5-6 days and in those 5-6 days they have to attend the graduation, travel to the city where my family resides and my father can only take of 2 days from his busy schedule to travel to the country. Because both families don’t have many days before they all go back to their countries of residence they are insisting on doing something directly.
Re: Baat pakki type of thing
I am just confused about what this something is/means
Baat pakki type of thing
When my inlaws came over to meet my family they had come to officially ask for rishta and it turned into a baat pakki and that was it. Considering your time schedules if they are happy and your family are happy then it seems they want to make it official before they leave. Just obviously be prepared as you would with guests coming to your house, and just take it from there
Oh and with me my family had already met my inlaws but my taya abu was abroad when they came for rishta hence it was re organised for when he was back in the country. As my dad passed away it was important to have him present
Re: Baat pakki type of thing
This could be the baat pakki if that’s what both families want. Since you and the guy obviously talk, just let him know that your family will have gifts and a ring for him. When his mother shows up and asks for your hand, and your parents say “yes”, then that’s that baat pakki.
Re: Baat pakki type of thing
Not sure if they are also coming with a ring or some sort of other gift. That’s what my mother was asking if they are or not and I had no idea. She said she wants to be prepared incase they do end up bring a ring or even any other form of gift.
I have a really good understanding with the guy and I am very comfortable but I dont know asking him such questions is becoming awkward for me :S
Baat pakki type of thing
Just ask him! If you guys are comfortable it shouldnt be awkward! If you dont ask you wont know