Re: Avoiding Divorce ....
I think it depends upon the basis of the relationship to begin with. Is it certain (solveable) problems that are causing the srtife?? Or is is basic incompatability?
I got married very young and had certain ideas and ideals about what I wanted marriage to be. So did he...and my ex is not an evil person but surely is one whose ideas and ideals vary greatly from mine which did not really come out till after marriage. We married too young, we married with our own separate ideas of what should be...and yeah I could have stayed in the marriage and been unhappy for the rest of my life. Thank goodness I found the strength to get out beccause have a fairy tale life now with my Knight in shining armor and all that.
What was the problem? He wanted kids. I earned lots, he wanted me to earn more. He did not earn like I did so he wanted to stay home, would be the stay-at =-home dad...but he was a nasty drinker. He hated my mom and dad. Did whatever he could to avoid having to visit them...we'd see his parents at every opportunity but it was torture to get him to visit mine. My bonuses bought his parents a house but when I wanted to buy a computer for my dad, he hit the roof and I thought he'd either have a heart attack or beat me up. Things like this are not resolveable, they are the basis for divorce.
Things like too much hanging out with guy-firneds or not being able to effectively communicate, those are things that you can resolve, even if you need to seek assistance. But you know in your heart, when you've walked a mile or so in the shoes of a troublesome marriage, which of the 2 situations apply.