The issue is well .. its more like a question …
I was told by a good friend that … a person i.e. a man should NOT ask an Aurats i.e. womans 'Age" … the question is why? … and on what onditions? and if a person does ask … on what grounds meaning … the reason as to why a person asks her age … and who he askes …
If any one has answer please let me know and i would prefer if you could provide me with solid evidence(s) …
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Have you asked your good friend to provide you a solid evidence? For it is he who is making the claim, not us.
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Have you asked your good friend to provide you a solid evidence? For it is he who is making the claim, not us.
Ive asked them but they are not sure of the evidence since they themself heard it from another person ...
so ths why i ask coz i ve heard the gorey say it but i dont know why they say it ...
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Please feel fine in asking women their age.
Help them get over the inferiority complex, if they are 'older' or 'younger'.
It is what is - their age.
So is yours!
Age of women is not something that they ought to be hiding.
Age is for instance, a huge sadness in the case of marriages in ‘Pakistani-Muslim’ community, where girls are considered suitable only as long as they are ‘mutable’ emotional relief or in many cases mere kissing boards.
Men and their families, ultimately will ‘allow’ a very young girl to become apart of the family, since she is able to be ‘handled’ without worrying about given her equality, listening to her, sharing her say in with the rest of the family.
The addiction is one of dignity and ability to f e e l like a valued individual, as a friend, as a lover and as a mature and sensible confidant, the better half.
But wonder, how can a person have someone as your better- half, unless she has to be half your age!!!
With age, comes personal independence, ability to know one’s rights, a sense of the horror that stares young women in their faces, and their ‘friend’ men emotionally and even physically go right over the top, in violating the personal warmth and trusting selves of these women. They justify that it is fine to do it.
Think for a minute, if all women who have been betrayed by their counterparts, in so many life stories, if they were to turn around and start abusing men and befriending them, only marrying men who are younger than them, how would men and their parents feel?
Age would feel like ACID, then, isn’t it?
Religion, culture, traditional custom in a family or society is pretty skewed to keep women out, and prevent them from becoming ACTIVE role-players in the everyday life, personal or social.
And then the accorded ‘izzat’, is self defined as attributable to a woman who is ‘obedient’ – to whom, you must wonder!
Age brings experience. For men, it is considered alright to be ‘older’
But, for women to be same age as men, is seen as a threat, is not acceptable.
So, in essence, equality is circumscribed, before it is even put into practice!
Besides, strong women always hope for strong men, who know these women as they would know their own selves. & for this, age and a companion who is able to grow with the other companion, is only logical.
Unless, there are people living in their ‘doubts’ and those who always admonished to be not afraid, are presenting themselves as nothing but fearful.
God help them.
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Dushwari: thankQ for your contribution ...
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your'e welcome fbi786
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well its not something worth hiding because one can know ur age from ur legal documents but still we hear ppl saying never ask a women abt her age........by women i mean 25+ or 30 + when some thing like a statue gets old like 30 years we call it an antique so may be with passage of time women become antique and special too .their beauty goes down with time so whats the need to know how long it has been made and how long it can stay
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well its not something worth hiding because one can know ur age from ur legal documents but still we hear ppl saying never ask a women abt her age........by women i mean 25+ or 30 + when some thing like a statue gets old like 30 years we call it an antique so may be with passage of time women become antique and special too .their beauty goes down with time so whats the need to know how long it has been made and how long it can stay
you still havnt answered the question ...^
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it hasnt got nething to do with religion 
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Excuse me … the question wasnt weather this thread should be in the religion section or not …
plz just answer the question and if you dont have the answer then say nuffin 
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if it is not a religious question it shudnt be in the religion section 
but never the less i shall say nuffin and go mind my own buisness 
… once again… sighz…
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`i don't know this myself . i first heard this thing from an irish nun. she told me that it was bad manners for a guy to inqiure about a woman's age and a women is to be treated with respect .
lol - i never asked her why !
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`i don't know this myself . i first heard this thing from an irish nun. she told me that it was bad manners for a guy to inqiure about a woman's age and a women is to be treated with respect .
lol - i never asked her why !
hey Iraj: how are you ...
well i was told by one of my friends and they were told by someone too but just like you they never asked why ...
i myself have heard it from gorey, that if you ask a woman thenits like rude or someting offensive in a way ... this person who said it to my frind ... he said it in an islamic perspective ... so ths why am asking what does islam say about it , i was hoping someone wold have a clue abou it ...
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Islam says.....
Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, what translated means, *'A sign of one's excellence in his Islam, is ignoring what does not concern him.' *[Ahmad, Malik & At-Tirmithi]
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why wud women hide their age anwys…afterall its just another number …
ppl only try to find out if ur older or yunger then them..what such a big deal in that..u shdnt b offended
and as far as this gos islamically…ive got no clu…
m prty sure i dint asnwer ur question..buttt..i tried..
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Islam says..... Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, what translated means, *'A sign of one's excellence in his Islam, is ignoring what does not concern him.' *[Ahmad, Malik & At-Tirmithi]
Thanks for this ... i know the Arabic ... i ll translitterate it ....
''min husnil islaam il mar e tar ko hu maa laa ya'nee''
Amber: you tried well ... and i agree too that ... a person only asks if they are younger or older than you ... :)
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Thanks for this ... i know the Arabic ... i ll translitterate it ....
''min husnil islaam il mar e tar ko hu maa laa ya'nee''
Amber: you tried well ... and i agree too that ... a person only asks if they are younger or older than you ... :)
what does it mean?[the highlighted part]
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"NEVER ASK A WOMEN ABT HER AGE " some body just said this just to get on our nerves thats it wasiay the who said this must had a bad :halo:
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what does it mean?[the highlighted part]
al mar e : is an arabic word, it litterally means a woman but in this contect , it is in the general state i.e. for both men and women ... :)
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experience