Ok my question is for the ppl who don’t have kids but are close to their nieces and nephews (either their siblings or their husband’s siblings kids)
how much liberty do you take wiht your nieces/nephews when the parents aren’t around? like disciplining them, feeding them food (that u know otherwise the parents wudn’t like, like junk food sweets etc) etc?
Personally, I will admit I don’t feel comfortable around small kids so if I’m with them alone I do exactly what their parents specify…I hope the question makes sense…
I respect what their parents do as well but I'm just a litte bit more lenient.....so if they're staying over at my house and their bedtime is around 8:00 pm I might let them stay up until 8:30 pm as long as they don't have school the next day. I make sure they eat their dinner before they eat candy.....again I think I do this because I see the kids almost everyday.....if they lived far away and I saw them once or twice a year I would be a lot more inclined to spoil them.
Don't have nephews and nieces, but I do have cousins. I don't think I am lenient with them. I am very orderly so I keep them in order. MashAllah my cousins are less stressful when their parents are absent which may be odd, but I guess they feel less safe to act up if mama bear isn't around to protect them.
Have a nephew... Do EXACTLY as his mom tells me to do. Even though im a parent myself and know how to handle a kid, but no....kids thrive on consistency... Especially in the early yrs...dont spoil the parents hard work by overriding the rules and boundaries they have worked so hard to setin the first place.
Sil once left the nephew with the mil and she overdosed hi. With cookies and chocolate which i told her not to... Never again :d ... After that ....she only left him with me... Ppl have to understand that ure not messing them up for a day...ure setting up a full week of damage control for the parent.
I've got an adorable nephew Mashallah.. he's just so well-behaved that I really don't need to put-in any effort at all. But he stays with me several nights and I feed him anything I wish to.. take him out and play till we're exhausted!
depends on how much liberty their parents give you......if the parents are ok with you handling them the way you like......its different.....and if they don't want u to handle the kids your way......then just let them be......
I know how my sisters are with their kids so basically what they do is what I do.
When the parents are there, I might give them candy now and then because they see it and know what their kid is being fed. When they're not there, I dont really give them candy or junk food even if they cry or throw a fit.
I am really close to the 4 year old - my sister doesnt mind if I give her time outs or a swat on her tush if she is being very bad.