I dont why my inlaws areso obsessed with pholoon ka haar . In my engagement they made me wear the haar all the time I was wishing not to wear it in my wedding again I was FORCED to wear it all the time and believe me it completely damages the look of dupata and the over all look as well.
Till now on gupshup also I have not seen a Paki bride wearing pholoon ka haar but I was helpless and had to wear it!
Similarly, the use of ubtan . I am fair and use of ubtan was making me look dull plus it was causing rashes on my skin but still the in laws haaa haiii ubtan nahi lagai so I just thought that it's better I lie so I did and I told them that i have applied ubtan.
I hate people who boss around esp when inlaws think that they have got some sort of ownership certificate upon the bride and can make her do anything they want !