I need to know what is considered normal for attending weddings after death of your parents. I was invited to a wedding 3 weeks after my father died, but I refused to go. People kept telling me to go, but I just did not feel strong enought to go. Was I wrong. How would other people act under such circumstances?
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Sorry for your loss.
There is no hard and fast rule. You don't have to push yourself to go if you don't want to.
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It is so comforting to hear that, LP.
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Answer to such questions is always 'it depends'. Who's wedding it it. Who is inviting. It could make things worse if there are people at the wedding who do not approve of you being there. It could make things better if there are people at wedding who might make you feel better.
There is no obligation, afaik.
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It is so comforting to hear that, LP.
I hadn't gone to work for a month after my brother passed away let alone a wedding. No one asked me to go or not to go. My employer was quite understanding too.
We all have different ways to deal with the loss of our loved ones.Don't think about what others think should be or shouldn't be done.
May Allah(swt) ease your pain of loss.
attending weddings after death in a family
OP, both my parents passed away within 30 days of each other. I took me a full year to get back to attending weddings/dawats.
The grieving process is very personal. Some people find it comforting to resume with normalcy as soon as possible, for others, reminders of their loved ones or people reminiscing about them in a social setting makes things worse. Do whatever feels right for you 
attending weddings after death in a family
Grief is a very personal emotion and theres no right or wrong, when my dad died i was only 17 just in my first term of college i dropped out and quit my weekend job. and jt took me a while to get my head together I rarely went out but looking back there is no right or wrong way to deal with it. Life eventually brings back some normality just take your time and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Its your decision.
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ohhhh may Allah tala gv patience to all who were selected to bear unbearable loss, ameen
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May Allah grant your father, the best place in Jannah.
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listen to your heart N soul...if you don't feel like going, don't force yourself to go. shaadi means happiness...if you ain't happy because you are mourning the loss of your parent, you can't force yourself to enjoy...can't wear a smile when your heart is bleeding.
may Allah grant jannat to your dad...aameen
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Sorry for your loss. May Allah grant him Jannah.......and if you feel like going then GO else you can skip it. There is no rule. Talking purely on religious basis, there are ahadees that encourages believers to not morn anyone for more than 3 days.