You can read some of my older threads to get some background on this post.
I’m attending a walima next month and I’ll be wearing a red suit with the jewellery that my ex-in-laws gifted me. My ex-in-laws have tried everything in order to get the jewellery back, and at first I agreed to it, as long as they gave us everything we had gifted them, but they dont want to do that, they just want their own stuff, without giving us theirs. Last times they tried before eid and my mama gave then 14 days, he said f they didn’t agree to our terms within 14 days, they should forget everything about getting anything back. I didn’t want to give it to them in the first place and now I have the best excuse to keep it. I’ve told everyone that I’m not giving it back, I keep it and InShaAllah on day my daughter can decide on what she wants to do with it.
My ex-brother-in-law and ex-sister-in-law will be attending the wedding, I doubt they will make a scene. My ex-husbands khala (who was the lying match-maker) and her entire family 6 sons & 6 daughter will be there too, but I don’t know wether or not they’ll create a scene, hey might.
I hope my post made sense.
What would you advice me to do? What would you do if you where in my situation?
Why would you EVER want to wear jewellery that was given to you by such people?
Why would you want it to even touch your skin, let alone wear it in public?
Sorry....I don't mean to be harsh but I would find that very undignified, regardless of whether or not my own jewels had been returned.
I would go without than wear it.
Yes...I would probably put it away for my daughter to do with as she pleases, but I wouldn't wear it.
Especially not if there was a chance that someone was going to make a scene about it.
My ex-brother-in-law and ex-sister-in-law will be attending the wedding, I doubt they will make a scene. My ex-husbands khala (who was the lying match-maker) and her entire family 6 sons & 6 daughter will be there too, but I don't know wether or not they'll create a scene, hey might.
What would you advice me to do? What would you do if you where in my situation?
You are not 100% sure that one of the ex in-laws will not create a scene. Now put yourself in the bride's shoes. How would you feel if a group of people created a scene in YOUR walima b/c one guest wore jewelry knowing that there is chance that a scene will be created? Frankly I think it would be very selfish of you to wear this jewelry knowing that there is a possibility that a scene will be created.
If I were you, I would NOT wear the jewelry to this walima. I would never risk ruining someone special event over something small like wearing jewelry. If you want to wear it, wear it to an event where no one from your ex's family will be there.
I agree with Muzna..I have read some of your old threads and I know your ex and his family treated you horrendously. Why would you even contemplate wearing anything they have given you? I can understand keeping it as a matter of principle (I.e: their refusal to return what they were given etc). But you don't need to wear it and I don't know why you would want to. Keep it for your daughter and she can decide what she wants to do with it. If you don't mind wearing it through, wear it at an event wear your ex in laws won't be present.
So she should avoid eeeevery event they're ever at? Er, no.
OP Just don't wear it, not worth the fights. If you really want to wear that stuff, wear it at other functions you know they won't be there, but it's just not worth it at this one.
If your intention was to keep it for your daughter, then why would you want to wear it? Just put it away safely somewhere for when she's old enough. Wear something else to the wedding. That way nothing can be said or done.
Jewelry that is given to you at your wedding is yours. Confused me can do whatever she wants with it, in front of whoever she wants. The brides jewelry isn't LOANED. It is a gift. Its tacky that they asked for it back and I'm glad you didn't return it. You can give it to your daughter one day if you want, but until you do, it is yours.