I have heard it is fashionable in Islamic countries (west asian ones) for boys/girls to have an attak and then talak if they find out they are not compatible. Due to the pressure of kids wanting to date like the western folks this has become Islamic way for girls and boys to be together without violating rules of Islam.
Attak was explained to me as being a Islamic way of dating/going steady. So basically, two could be together and not actually be married. If they don’t get along they get divorced (talak) but the process of a nikah/marriage has never taken place.
A female friend of a cousin has gone through “attak then talak” process several times because she has not found an acceptable partner.
Is anyone familiar with what I am talking about??
–ladlaone
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I really dont know of this "attak" process that you are speaking of but I have heard of many western girls/guys having their nikah but NOT their rukhsati so they date until they hate each other.
This is allowable (well, maybe not for this intent) but once a couple has had their nikah (but not rukhsati), they are able to meet and behave as though fully married.
And then get a talaak then go and find another "mate" and repeat the process all over again.
Its true about Nikkah and Ruksati, but at least in Pakistani culture/society the intention is not merely to be able to meet or date and then divorce. In fact, Divorce is a highly unpleasant and almost bad word in our society. Nikkah and later on Ruksati is done basically for conveience. As for "attak" and "talak", In my limited knowledge, it doesn't exist in Islam. There is one thing called "Mut'a" or temporary marriage but that its totally different than the above described process merely for dating and getting to know stuff.
I am not a religious scholar so I will not go into details but according to Fiqa'-e-Hanafi, a nikkah with an intention of a later divorce is not a nikkah at the first place. This simple rule makes attak and muta', unaccepatable.
There are five well known Fiqahs in Islam (according to Al Azhar University's Head), Among them, there are variation as to different terms and practices of Islam. I have never heard of "attak" & "talak" in any of those Fiqahs but I have known that Fiqa-i-Jaferia permits Mut'a or temporary marriage on certain conditions.
Absolutely true Imranz. Fiqa-i-Jaferia permits Mut'ah or temporary marriage. However, in the sunni fiqh, Mut'ah does not exist anymore. That was allowed for a sometime during the prophet's time but was abolished by allah (swt) later on.
Attack & Talak. I dont know what that is, but I do know that dating is not allowed at all in Islam. No social gathering or interaction of men and women is allowed. That is not being backward, this is what Islam says.
After Nikah, husband and wife can do whatever they like, they dont need ruqsati. That is just a cultural thing in pakistan. However, I do not know about what tariq bhai has said that a marraige is void if it is done with an intention of getting a divorce later on. I will have to check on that and get back to you all later.
Thanks for verifying my post. I just wanted to add that you are right Mut'a is not permissible by any Fiqa except Fiqa-i-Jaferia and the reasoning you gave as to that it was abolished by Allah(swt) is not historically true, As all Islamic Historians believe that Hazrat Umar abolished Mut'a, it was practiced in Prophet's as well as Hazrat AbuBakr's time.