for clothes shoes etc?? not just what they wear everyday but what is bought for them.
My son is 6, he has not shown any keen interest in what I buy for him, when I am choosing stuff for him I ask him if wants to choose or if he likes what I am picking up for him and he goes whatever you like, kind of sure anything attitude.
I was talking to a very close friend today , she has been telling me her kids giving her hard time in terms of what they want to buy, her kids are 9 and 4. Is that normal? for kids that young to refuse to wear what parents buy for them? and this is what she has been telling me for the last ~ 2 years. My friend and her husband are nerdy, very low maintenance kind of people, I mean they dress nice but nothing flashy or OTT, I wonder where they are learning this from? she said my daughter (who just turned 4) goes through 3-4 outfits before settling on one when we go out, what do you guys think? am I limiting my son’s choices or her kids are just too much?? which kind of parenting you guys agree with in this situation??
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My son was quite opinionated at 3months. He hated body suites when he was a baby, he hates them even as a toddler. We have his shoes with the rest of the shoes. Once he was able to recognize shoes, we just ask him to get his shoes. Again, there is one pair he loves more than the other two.
He does choose stuff for himself at store; however, that stuff doesn’t always makes it to home. Lol! We never fight with him at the store, we let him pick stuff (1 or 2 items), when we are at the counter, we just let the cashier quietly put it on the side.
You don’t really have to be a high maintenance person to teach your child how to choose outfits, etc.
Would you mind elaborating on your parenting style. I feel we do not have enough information to make any suggestions on your parenting style.
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I never put much thought into telling my son that he should be choosing his own stuff etc and today when I was talking to my friend I kept thinking should I be telling my son to choose his kapre and shoes too, is he missing out on a big developmental step by not making choices for kapre and shoes. Last Sept was the first time my son chose his own school bag poori pasand se, even though I was looking at a more practical, better bag but he said nahi yahi chahiye, so we said ok. I guess our parental style is give and take, we give in where our son is reasonable and stand firm where we need him to learn something/or to make a point.
To me it is unreasonable for kids to refuse literally everything that parents choose for them esp when it comes to necessities, ke nahi??
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every kid has some preference, my son never wore body suits with enclosed toes, he hated it so I always had to buy with open toes and put socks on his lil feet…
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As your children become older you will find that your opinions may/will differ wildly from your sibs, your friends etc.
So, reading your post, I feel you are judging your own parenting style. How we see ourselves depends on how the world is today. Lack of boundaries or more boundaries? Acceptable not acceptable. Whether you are allowing your son to grow or not.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t let the opinions of others necessarily dictate your own thoughts and opinions. Hope that makes sense.
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My kid has been driving me insane with her choices since she was probably 2, if not younger.
And I was never asking for input. She naturally imposed her likes and dislikes onto me :grrr:
My nikka loves one pair of shoes. A few months ago, he refused to let anything else touch his feet other than the shoes he wore day in day out. 5 weeks later, completely different man. He wanted his feet in every shoe he could find, even if it was an adult size high heel
As Wendy said, there is no right or wrong way of doing this. Some kids naturally want to have their input, others dont.
