I taught my daughters very early that only mommy can touch them. And though I didn’t make any extra-special efforts to teach them the concept of sharm and hayaa, I guess I’m happy that they understand how to distance themselves when boys of our friends are playing with them. I don’t see them sitting next to each other “chipak” ke or playing mommy-daddy type of games, etc. They stick to board games mainly, or craft activities.
I don’t mean to be fanatic about this but I feel parents should teach children basic ettiquettes of physical proximity…stuff like don’t take your pants off if you want to pee in front of others [it’s not funny], or there is no need to hug a friend of the opposite sex [what happened to the good old fashioned hello/salam?], stuff like that..
So if you see your child being extra “huggy huggy” with other kids, especially the other gender, at what age do you make it a point to tell them not to do that.
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I have many friends who have sons. I've seen it both ways where the moms are pretty careful about their sons and the other types where they don't really care.
Re: At what age do you teach your kids about "not touching"
I have many friends who have sons. I've seen it both ways where the moms are pretty careful about their sons and the other types where they don't really care.
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My son isnt the touchy feely type and if anyone does come in his pvt space he shrieks like a bollywood actress in a rape svene.... So my job is done for me . My mom on the other hand told us kids we couldnt play darkroom and other touchy feely games with those of the opp sx when us kids were 7 or 8.
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My son isnt the touchy feely type and if anyone does come in his pvt space he shrieks like a bollywood actress in a rape svene.... So my job is done for me . My mom on the other hand told us kids we couldnt play darkroom and other touchy feely games with those of the opp sx when us kids were 7 or 8.
Why is your son so fearful of proximity? That doesn't sound healthy either.
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i started telling her as soon as she started school n by the time she was 4 ,she fully understood that she has to change clothes separately n not get too chipko with other kids
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I have started to. I think 6-8 is a good age. I don't know what to say to them though. suggestions?
We talked about how girls sit separately, don't hold hands with boys or sit too close at the masjid in our Adaab class. Talked about manners and stuff. You may want to read stories for them to illustrate the point. Then sometimes, you don't even have to give this a religious flavor but talk more about safety without alaraming them but making them aware that how you behave with girls is different from how you behave with boys.
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err u know most my childhood pals were bachay and i never hugged anyone .but i dont remmeber either what we played.=/
Rolla, I don't remember hugging when I was a kid either. This hugging and coochie poochie trend is very recent. And it's more common in desis. A totally unnecessary display of affection I think.
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Its very healthy. He doesnt feel the need to hug and kiss everything that moves. He can portray his happiness and joy over seeing a playmate by talking, clapping his hands and playing with them rather than smothering the other’s private space with his presence. Easch child shows their affections differently… My son just doesnt appreciate the huggers and kissers… Cuz then it gets violent… Before u k ow it… They are on the floor with my son struggling to get out of the hug the other child is hell bent on giving him whilst its moer goes awww and ahhh over how loving her child is. (my son is 2).
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Oh and its not just for the opp sex.... But i rememeber i would find it highly annoying when a girl in my class would always wanna hold hands.... I mean always! Ure 7... Get over it! But she just had this need to touch.... Everyone found her weird. So u gotta teach ure kids not just for security sake...but also for their own sake so others dont make fun of them....
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I think my sister started to teach my niece at age 3…she is now 4 but knows that only mama can see her “nandi” (nangi ). She closes the door when we go to the bathroom and never takes her pants off anywhere else.
She went to Islamic school for pre-school and they did teach her a little bit about physical proximity and being careful of such things.
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I should watch my nephews next time and see what they do but I haven’t ever noticed anything strange…they play well with other kids, I’ve never seen them cry or the other kid cry because of their actions so I guess they already know what’s right and wrong.
I dunno about the nanga thing though, they’re okay with me taking them to the bathroom and all and changing their diapers (When they wore theM)
(my son is 2).
). She closes the door when we go to the bathroom and never takes her pants off anywhere else.