Ive always wondered how parents of children feel when their kids confide in someone else rather than them.
Would you be upset if your child confided in an aunt, uncle or someone else about something that was important to them?
How do you make sure your kids are always comfortable enough with you to talk about anything and everything?
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I hope I can be the type of parent where my daughters never feel the need to confide in anyone other than me or my husband. I know they would be discussing some silly stuff with friends but I'd feel like I haven't done my job right if they discuss their life changing decisions with others.
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How do you get to have that relationship? ... I'll tell you 20 years later:D
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Do Paki kids even confide in anybody? I don't.
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Depends.. if they went to someone else because they didn't feel close enough to me or felt they couldn't tell me because of my reaction/anger I'd be heartbroken but if they went to the other person because they had more experience with the situation than me or some other practical reason I would understand and just shrug it off..
Sometimes ppl on here mention they can't tell their parents they like someone, I would hate for my kids to feel they can't tell me something like that..
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Would you be upset if your child confided in an aunt, uncle or someone else about something that was important to them? How do you make sure your kids are always comfortable enough with you to talk about anything and everything?
I would not be upset. Why would I be? It's important for parents to realize that children are going to have many other significant relationships other than just yours. you job is to get them ready for that.
There are numerous times where parents lose objectivity and others can help.
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But but but but everyone aside from parents are out to get you and ruin your life and reputation 
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(That’s what I was raised to believe)*
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Njgal is right that children will have other significant relationships...and really, after they get married, I will take a step back. They will have their husband and other people whom they could go to. My hope is that I can be a good guide to my children until they are of adult age, or let's say, until they have a life partner, or whenever they need me to be.
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honestly I would have some feelings of failure.......no doubt about that......but I would be happy that they went to someone close to them, provided it was a family member.
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I'd be kinda jealous and feel kinda inadequate.