I just can’t stand it when people who, you’ve never met in your life, never spoken to, or even communicated with before in any manner, make bizarre, disturbing, and crazy assumptions about your life and personality, based on a less than 10 minute conversation which involved regular everyday talk. I don’t understand how some people can seem to think that they have the power to analyze a person in such a time frame as if they’ve known this person for years and years. Makes me wonder why they’re not applying their “skills” with the Psychic Alliance hotline. I’ve always been raised and taught to judge people on what I know of them, and not on what I don’t know of them. It just angers me sometimes how people can come to such unjustifiable conclusions, and beleive them as fact, as well as how some people are easily influenced by such absurd assumptions.
Well, it's what they say... First Impressions Count.
The first couple of interactions that you have with someone leave an impression that takes a lot of time to change.
I remember that by the time I finished my degree, my best friends were a bunch of people who I thought were idiots throughout my first year (and they thought similar things about me :D )
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Well, it's what they say... First Impressions Count.
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I agree that first impressions count, however, this wasn't a real "interaction", in anyway whatsoever. A first impression counts on a meeting, or like you said, the first couple of interactions, not a short phone call, and if you only knew the kind of assumptions and conclusions that were drawn from that. Besides, the person in question is neither a friend, or an aquaintance, or even a potential spouse.
It's an assumption, and you have to take it as that. You can try to tell a person you are not like that, till you are blue in the face, some people just want to go by what their mind has made up. It's not so much detrimental to you, but rather to them for having a mindset like this, which probably affects all their relationships. I would suggest you try and talk to them and ask them why and how they came up with such, and then you can explain your viewpoint.
Over the course of years, I have found that people will believe whatever they want to believe. So be it. I am not going to allow that to interfere with my daily life. If I feel they are doing some constructive criticism, I will look into it myself, if not, I dont let it bother me after the first day or two.
A few guppies have sometimes assumed things about me incorrectly(eventhough they have read my posts/interacted for months), and so I ask them to please not make any sort of definate judgements/decisions until they get to know me. If they refuse to, thats their decision. Dont let this person make you feel down, if you do, it is your decision to allow this person to make you feel this way.
aww fretty..who cud make a wrong assumptions about u!
u r so nice n sensible.. UNLIKE some ppl i know
but oh well.. let them think whatever they want. its not gonna effect ur health in anyway, so y bother to even waste ur time thinking about what others may or maynot think of u.
my logic..as long as they r being nice to u..be nice to them.. the moment they go nasty.. let them go to hell with it
Here is not an assumption, but a fact. Stop thinking from your balls and think with your noggin. You would save yourself the logical acidity and also retain the respect that might ben fleeting :)
