A thread about Charles and Camilla’s marriage got me a bit irritated ( nothing new, sorry). I figured I would vent a bit here.
Why is it when a husband cheats on a wife, the other woman is blamed? How come it is hardly ever the man’s fault? How come the wife is expected to be patient and just wait it out (after all, boys will be boys)?
Why is it when a wife cheats on her husband, it is her fault and not the fault of the man she is with like with the above scenario? How come it is expected that she should be thrown out (at the very least)?
In my eyes, if two people are married and one cheats it is always their fault or their lack of character, not the person they cheat with.
Ok, done venting. But if you have a rationale, feel free to leave it…
The other woman is blamed? Come on, the men are always blamed (men are pigs, men cannot control their desires, men cannot be trusted), the women are seen as the victims even though most women know the men they are cheating with is married / in a relationship. And women cheat as well. But of course, we like to pretend those women do not exist and that women are these holy creatures who would never fall to that level.
You are absolutely right. The two women were "played" by old chuck. I think what you are describing is more of a desi phenomenon. You know....it is the girls fault that got raped because she didn't wear hijab....that kind of thinking and guess what...it will be women who would be leding the charge with that mindset.
Sarah - you're right, too. I mentioned that women cheat as well, just pointing out the double standard is all. Sure, the woman can know the man is married, but the man is the one with the committment. Married woman who cheat are just as much to blame as a man who cheats. I am just tired of hearing how it is the other woman's fault.
what PD said is shamefully true...women in my family believe that one woman is another womans enemy..you could say that because of their insecurities, what culture dictates, society...whatever...women are almost always blamed for that kinda stuff..."she wasnt fulfilling her womanly duties" crap.
people will blame whoever they think is the easiest target, sometimes man, sometimes woman and more importantly, the other woman. i wonder who gets the blame if the other woman turns out to be the other man?
We actually had that happen with a NJ gov. It was funny in a way how twisted it got and the "other guy" still says nothing happened even with the gov admitting everything and stepping down. I heard a lot of comments about how the wife was money hungry and stupid, but not a lot about the other guy other than he is in denial.
And, yeah, those comments were all from women. That never really sunk in until now. We are a mean bunch, aren't we?
We all speak through our experiences. In my highschool we had some really wicked girls who would get guys in trouble just for the fun of it. And the teachers, female and male alike, would never believe that the girls are actually capable of something like bring a condom to school. According to them such a disgusting act of profanity can only be performed by the male gene holders.
I beg to differ. If two people are married and one of them decides to cheat on the other - then the cheater AND the person he/she is cheating with is ALSO to blame. I mean they dont force somebody to jump into bed/have an affair with them. The OTHER person does so knowing quite well what he/she is getting into. So yeah BOTH are idiots ,the person being cheated on is the only one who I would feel for - that too depending on the entire situation.
Interesting. So whoever does the cheating is the only person to blame and lacks character? I disagree. If the person they are cheating with is aware that the other person is married, yet they go ahead and carry on the affair with the married person anyway, are they not to blame at all? Is it not irresponsible, reckless and selfish of both of them; both the married individual and the ‘other man/woman’?
there are lots of women/girls that know that the guy they are with is either married or has a girlfriend and they go ahead and have an affair with the guy anyways, maybe they think they can get the guy away from the other women.
I didn't say the one who was with the cheating partner was blameless, not at all. But I do think the one with the committment (marriage) is the one to blame within that relationship, not the outside person. The outside person still is a rat for getting into a relationship with a married person, but the blame for the marriage being over is the person cheating and only that person.
Camilla was not the reason Charles cheated, he cheated because he has weak character. She may have the same also but I can't believe people still say "So-and-so was a home wrecker" or saying it was the other person fault.
if girls would think that way they wouldn’t be in that situation in the first place…guys know how to convince a girl to stay with them even if they are with someone else…its all about mind games.
nothing new, sorry). I figured I would vent a bit here.