WHEN someone comes to visit you from another place, such as if your relatives come to your country of residence, from say pakistan, and ask you tumhe kuch chaiye…whats your response.
have you ever said yes please id like .....
or is it no thanks, kuch nahi…
for those who say yes i would like…how do you think this comes across to others? is it too forward/greeedy…and does it depend who you say it to.would you tell you MIL to send something openly|?
SECONDLY…when someone asks tumhein to kuch nahi chaiye na? thats a negative ending question, meaning the answer from that is no…so the person asking doesnt want you to say you want aNYTHING…is this normal…or do we read too much into how a question i asked.
if someone asked you tumhe to kuch nahi chaiye na…whats your response.
People who ask me this questions are really near and dear to me (mostly my parents, my in-laws, siblings) so I dont mind telling them any thing that I need/want from Pakistan.
For others who are not-so-close, never bother to ask. In fact, they never tell us that they are coming(just in case we ask for something). We normally come to know that they are in US/Canada after "accidently" meeting them at Iqbal foods :)
I always ask my sister in law and her family if they need something from here because I have a pretty good relationship with her and we are pretty open with each other.. she usually says no I have everything.. so I usually just let her get something form pakistan from our side or send kids money so they can just get something for them also!
cuz they always get you bad things. even though money is still spent on those bad things, but you dont know where to wear those bad things. so it is better if they dont get you anything.
I rarely if ever ask for something to be brought back from overseas. And if I do....it's because the product is not available here...or of a better quality/deal over there. Whether I ask or not depends upon how close I am to the person....also I'd pay the person back....if I make a request.
As far as wording the question in a negative "tumhein to kuch nahi chaiye na"....it could be because the person is giving a hint that they're hoping you won't ask for anything...but also trying to fulfill the formality of asking. OR...........it's also possible that you had earlier mentioned that you don't want anything.....and the person is trying to confirm that. For example...my mom asks if I want something....and I say, "No." Then at a later point...she might reconfirm my response by asking "Tumhay to kuch nahin chahiye na?"
I dont ask for anything from anyone when there are coming , because there always an I bought this suit for her when ........ came, so I want this from her when....coming back.I always order what I want with fed ex and I send money for whatever I want.
I have no problems asking certain people for things if I need them. But these are only my closest family and friends for whom I would do/have done exactly the same back.
If someone I'm not close to asks me if I want something I will always say no, as I don't like feeling like I may be asking too much from them.
