Out of interest, would a guy find it inappropriate / annoying etc. if his fiancee asked him to call her parents on a special occasion? Not nagged, but just requested? What would the reaction be?
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If it is a special occasion - Shouldn't he be calling already ?
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Out of interest, would a guy find it inappropriate / annoying etc. if his fiancee asked him to call her parents on a special occasion? Not nagged, but just requested? What would the reaction be?
My fiance asks me all the time to call his parents on special occassions (Birthdays, 4th of July etc.)...and I do it. IF I asked him to do the same....he's do it w/o an issue. I just don't bother with it b/c I don't think its a big deal.....I just tell my parents "X said "happy birthday" or whatever the occassion is.
I don't think it would be viewed as inappropriate. BUT if the guy doesn't know the parents very well....I imagine some might find it awkward.
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He could ... its a real possibility...
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Out of interest, would a guy find it inappropriate / annoying etc. if his fiancee asked him to call her parents on a special occasion? Not nagged, but just requested? What would the reaction be?
Shouldn't be an issue. I think that most of the time people realize it on their own and don't have to be told. But if you want him to do this...you should reciprocate it as well. Our own gestures sometimes can motivate others.
So, did you ask him and were met with annoyance....or you haven't asked yet?
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define special occasion too..
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He mentioned himself that he would call them a few weeks ago, but hasn't got round to it. So, himself apologised that he had been busy, so I just said please do when you get a few moments. & now we haven't really spoken for a little while.
So I was concerned that I was being a pain. & parents are asking me as to why he hasn't called?
RV I do try to reciprocate, I guess I know how much it means to my parents. & it wouldn't be awkward as he has spoken to them lots before.
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Do you think it might help if you told him that my parents are...."looking forward to hearing from you and being a part of their celebration as they consider you a special/important addition to the family." That way, it sounds less like an order and more like an invitation. It's also possible that when you mention "parents" (and not in a threatening way) he'll take it more seriously. I dunno....maybe if you word it differently...it won't come across an nagging/annoying.
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different guys behave differently ..esp if the guy doesnt know the girls parents that well..for him this courtesy calling would be real tedious
IMO if you persistently ask him to wish your parents or your siblings on special occasions chances are he could get irritated !alot of men dislike being told what to do ...
meanwhile some guys think that all this calling up, wishing on birthdays etc should wait till you are married and really part of the family ! like for instance my hubby never called my sister or my sister like cousin up coz he thought it was inappropriate as we weren't married ...now he does without me asking him to do so ..buys gifts for them
so it actually varies from person to person ...as for the OP if you have asked him once it's best not to rub it on him again ...what you could do is wish your parents/siblings from his side and make an effort to be friendlier with his family ! he'd follow lead IA :)
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If it is a special occasion - Shouldn't he be calling already ?
Sometimes people feel awkward talking to elders and avoid it, assuming that no one really minds.
I think it's okay. If he's annoyed, it's okay, as long as it's temporary annoyance out of shyness or something. I doubt it's something he would actually minds.
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If he is your fiance then it would be a very nice gesture if he called to wish them on a special occasion.
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with no offence and with my little experience of life which is tripple of my age ) u lot r nt married and i got that thaings r really good b/w u two shouldnt he be caring to ur family atleast before he s married to u that he shouldnt be asked think after marriage u would always be asking and he would be getting annoyed whats that u know where i m coming from , u both should be doing it out of love for eachother families rather than being reminded thisis how a strong foundation is made with warmth and love and respect
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Just want him to be approved by the family
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It’s ok, he called them. Although parents were like, acha hota agar woh sab se pehli phone kartein. But it is done now!
Thank you, I did just wait & not bring it up. Saying that my parents were looking forward to speaking to him is exactly what I wanted to say, but I haven’t managed to work out how to say it 
. Khair, I will leave it for now and not go on about it & maybe when I feel able to I will explain how important it is to them.
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^ Your parents need to chill. And you need to ignore stuff, if they are going to keep nitpicking like that. They will make you miserable.
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I think it's perfectly reasonable to expect your fiancee to do so.
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To be honest I always have to ask my husband to phone my parents, it's not he doesn't like my family or don't wanna talk to them ,most of the time he is just too lazy to pick up a phone, I don't make a big issue out of it,, I know it's just the way he is, doesn't talk alot but when he does he become centre of attention as he's great sence of humor too, and he treat his family same well in some ways more frank and open with mine..:)
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i agree with u here that ur parents still mentioned acha hota agar unka phone pehle atta doesnt matter sometimes u too have to ignore these things i know if i put myself at ur place then i will dying thousand deaths oh my fiance didnt call bla bla but girl u need to listen to ur heart sometimes u dont do it either its not a big deal if he didnt do it but remember things r more nicer when theu r nt reminded so give it a go just stay cool see what happens alll the best
^ Your parents need to chill. And you need to ignore stuff, if they are going to keep nitpicking like that. They will make you miserable.