haha so my mom is more curious than I am and wanted me to make a fake account and find out about him but I don't think its worth it because I don't think he adds random people. he hasn't even added his female cousins and sisters (that kind of...freaks me out, tbh...like why would he do that?) but his male cousins are friends with him. Larkay ne apni fb bohot hi private raki hai...I can't even see his friends even though we're in the same network!
(I sound like such a stalker)... and I woudl be SO creeped out if he made a fake profile and added me so I dont want to do it. Plus, I have pictures with guys (though nothing inapprop at all) and I wouldn't want him to think anything either. lol
perhaps a fake account is not needed. If some one is regular on fb, just adding him as friend will tell you a lot about his personality through his facebook wall and comments left by his friends on his posts and pictures.
I know very well but not every guy.......... We cannot generalize all guys in same category.
agree with you on this.
guys add random girls and also welcome girls adding them trust me i have seen it with my own eyes ...
bhai jaan aap larko ko badnaam kar rahay hein. i got more than 170 friends on my fb and keep filtering this list on regular basis. Not even a single one of them is a person that i dont know personally. And i know that there are a lot of guys like me.
I don't think he adds random people. he hasn't even added his female cousins and sisters (that kind of...freaks me out, tbh...like why would he do that?) but his male cousins are friends with him. Larkay ne apni fb bohot hi private raki hai...I can't even see his friends even though we're in the same network!
I haven't added my siblings and they haven't added me. I guess the reasoning is that if we add one another, we might write embarrassing stuff on the others' walls. Then there's also the curiosity over the friends of opposite gender. We would rather not bring facebook drama into our lives. Despite that, I have some female cousins added but no male cousins. I think a guy would be more likely to add his male cousins he's really close to than his female cousins or sisters... I don't think it's that unusual... but maybe people would disagree with me.
I haven't added my siblings and they haven't added me. I guess the reasoning is that if we add one another, we might write embarrassing stuff on the others' walls. Then there's also the curiosity over the friends of opposite gender. We would rather not bring facebook drama into our lives. Despite that, I have some female cousins added but no male cousins. I think a guy would be more likely to add his male cousins he's really close to than his female cousins or sisters... I don't think it's that unusual... but maybe people would disagree with me.
hmm I guess that makes sense. It's just odd for me since I have my brother/sisters added and so do all my friends but I guess we're more open about having friends of the opposite gender (epecially since none of us have anything that can even be misconstrued as scandalous)...
perhaps a fake account is not needed. If some one is regular on fb, just adding him as friend will tell you a lot about his personality through his facebook wall and comments left by his friends on his posts and pictures.
soconfused can't add the guy right now. Besides, when she will add him, the guy might clean up his profile and friendlist. So adding by a fake account would be a good idea. Firstly, it will tell whether the guy adds random girls or not. If he adds, then soconfused can stalk his whole profile without him knowing whom really does this fake profile belong to. But the guy may be smart enough to know that confused might be stalking her and she should be prepared to face same kind of stalking by him (if he is that much bothered).
soconfused, if you're willing to make a fake, guy's profile to add your potential to FB to spy on him, why don't you just ask him? Wouldn't that be much better? If he's going to lie, he'll lie. But if he is as honest as his family proclaims to be, then he will have abstained from all the haram activities, and will tell the truth.
This goes for all of you girls posting in the thread. No harm in asking the guy. He will either tell you, or he won't. Most likely, he will be turned off by that question, instead of realizing that you have a brain on your shoulders, and that potential will be a potential no more. And that, is good riddance. You don't want to be shackled down with a good for nothing, close minded individual.
soconfused can't add the guy right now. Besides, when she will add him, the guy might clean up his profile and friendlist. So adding by a fake account would be a good idea. Firstly, it will tell whether the guy adds random girls or not. If he adds, then soconfused can stalk his whole profile without him knowing whom really does this fake profile belong to. But the guy may be smart enough to know that confused might be stalking her and she should be prepared to face same kind of stalking by him (if he is that much bothered).
Tried and tested method? If this is your way of handling your rishta scenarios, I am actually concerned for any guys well being around you.
I thought be bypassed the stone ages? Clearly not.
soconfused, if you're willing to make a fake, guy's profile to add your potential to FB to spy on him, why don't you just ask him? Wouldn't that be much better? If he's going to lie, he'll lie. But if he is as honest as his family proclaims to be, then he will have abstained from all the haram activities, and will tell the truth.
This goes for all of you girls posting in the thread. No harm in asking the guy. He will either tell you, or he won't. Most likely, he will be turned off by that question, instead of realizing that you have a brain on your shoulders, and that potential will be a potential no more. And that, is good riddance. You don't want to be shackled down with a good for nothing, close minded individual.
agreed. I think the whole thing of making fake profiles is really creepy and I would be disturbed if I found out he was doing it to me. As long as I make my limits and expectations clear, he should get a fairly good idea whether we're "compatible"...I'm just gonna assume that he really IS one of the shareef guys because , as a friend of mine pointed out, I too have guy friends on fb and stuff that could be misconstrued as something more and I wouldn't want someone making those assumptions based on something dumb like fb. bahhh we'll see when/if he comes!
Tried and tested method? If this is your way of handling your rishta scenarios, I am actually concerned for any guys well being around you.
I thought be bypassed the stone ages? Clearly not.
I was just comparing adding him onto a fake profile rather than adding him on the real profile since adding on real profile is not appropriate this time. I just said this when the idea of fb came up in the thread.
If you read my previous posts, you will notice that I was the one who advocated the idea of asking the guy directly but then people here would comment that the guy would not be telling the truth. The guy may or may not be telling the truth but the girl should observe him although what we observe is not true 100% and background checking will help to make the decision.