Me and my cousin don’t exactly get on, we pretend we both really love each other and never argue, but I’m pretty sure she can’t stand me just as much as I can’t stand her. Anyway, she won’t tell me anything about anything to do with her wedding, and I think it has something to do with the fact that I’m getting married 5 months after her. Today her SIL (brother’s wife) facebooked me to let me know what colours we’re wearing, I basically never talk to her SIL, and my cousin has my number and could have texted me. I feel kind of annoyed, there’ll only be 2/3 of us wearing the same colours, so why couldn’t my cousin let me know herself? Am I over-reacting?
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if you know that she can't stand you and you can't stand her then why are you upset about this?
IF what you have stated is true then she is not doing anything but acting as she feels and no longer putting on the facade of being nice......
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its fine if you guys don't get along, but you should still give each other respect. don't be upset over not receiving a mere text to tell you of the color schemes. instead, be happy her sister in law filled you in. i've had family do the same, and of course its not the best feeling, but its your chance to come out stronger and show your values. by you just keeping your mouth shut and not arguing may make you look weak to her, but in Allah's eyes youre the one who did the right thing. don't worry about her at her wedding, just enjoy your last few months as a single lady and wear a gorgeous outfit of the color of their choice! :)
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if you know that she can't stand you and you can't stand her then why are you upset about this? IF what you have stated is true then she is not doing anything but acting as she feels and no longer putting on the facade of being nice......
Can you elaborate on the IF?
I'm not upset, I'm just confused as to what I'm supposed to do. Am I supposed to read into the situation and analyze it or just wear the colour and continue the facade? I sometimes wish there was no prentending and she would just say what's on her mind instead of trying to be tactful.
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I'm not upset, I'm just confused as to what I'm supposed to do. Am I supposed to read into the situation and analyze it or just wear the colour and continue the facade? I sometimes wish there was no prentending and she would just say what's on her mind instead of trying to be tactful.
I don't know what you're confused about. You don't like her. She doesn't like you. Period. But since you are cousins, you're forced to deal with each other on family events such as weddings.
There is nothing to "analyze" here. Wear whatever color you're told to wear and move on. Focus on your own wedding.
I understand that you wish there was no pretending but that's not going to happen. If your cousin had any intention of communicating openly with you, she would've done so already. Since she hasn't.....you need to understand and accept that "hint", and move on.
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Can you elaborate on the IF?
I'm not upset, I'm just confused as to what I'm supposed to do. Am I supposed to read into the situation and analyze it or just wear the colour and continue the facade? I sometimes wish there was no prentending and she would just say what's on her mind instead of trying to be tactful.
There is nothing to be confused about. Sounds to me that you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Simply wear the colour and be done with it.
Why analyze anything?
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Thanks guys :)