Ashley X - The Pillow Angel

I had read about this little girl some years back and found the case to be quite thought-provoking. Found this update and was wondering what some of my GS friends might think about the treatment chosen by Ashley’s parents…

Parents who froze girl in time defend their actions

Opinion was divided yesterday about the case of Ashley X, the nine-year- old girl whom doctors have determined will never grow up. The severely disabled child has had her womb and breasts removed and hormone treatment to halt puberty and stunt her growth, freezing her development so that her parents can continue to lift and care for her at home.

Called “Pillow Angel” by her parents, the girl, who suffers from static encephalopathy, cannot walk, talk or hold her head up. She is fed through a tube and lies wherever she is put, usually on a pillow.

Her parents, from Seattle, who describe themselves as college-educated professionals, gave their reasons for seeking the treatment for their daughter in a 4,000-word blog launched on New Year’s Day.

Only those in a similar situation were qualified to comment, they said. "Unless you are living the experience, you are speculating and you have no clue what it is like to be the bedridden child or their care givers.

"Ashley was dealt a challenging life and the least that we could do as her loving parents and caregivers is to be diligent about maximising her quality of life.

“A fundamental and universal misconception about the treatment is that it is intended to convenience the caregiver.”

The parents also describe how their daughter is faring after the medical procedures in other blog entries. “Ashley is doing well … [she is] healthy, happy, and lovingly cared for.”

Ashley’s parents chose, in consultation with her doctors, a treatment known as growth attenuation. In 2004, doctors in Seattle, where the family lives, carried out a hysterectomy and surgery to remove her breast buds and started her on the hormone oestrogen to halt puberty.

The aim was to restrict her height to its present 4ft 5in - compared with the 5ft 6in expected without treatment - and to limit her weight to about five-and-a-half stones, instead of the nine stones expected.

Source and full article can be found at:
Parents who froze girl in time defend their actions - Americas - World - The Independent

Caring for a child with special needs is a taxing responsibility…physically and emotionally. In cases where the disability is so severe that the child is unable to convey their discomfort do we, as parents, have the right to take such extreme measures? Are we obligated to?

What do you think?

Re: Ashley X - The Pillow Angel

i honestly cant even get to it... no matter how much i think bout it.. i cant... its beyond my understanding and i pray and hope that no one i know ever has to go through something like this.

horrible.

the furthest my mind goes is... i would let them go be angels in the heavens above. not live like this.

but then my heart says no.. atleast they are infront of our eyes.

to that the brain answers no no... whats the use of them being there in person but not alive

on and on it goes between heart and brain, this depressing question answer round

which leads me back to my first sentence... its beyond my understanding

allah sub per rahem kare :(

Re: Ashley X - The Pillow Angel

i can understand their logic with stunting her physical growth in regards to her reproductive/sexual organs. does anyone remember the case of the comatose woman who was found to be pregnant by a hospital orderly who they discovered was raping her on and off over a period of time, as she lay there comatose? shudder people are depraved and i'm sure these parents are thinking they want to prevent any possibility of something similarly horrific happening to her should she grow to her physical height and weight and they are unable to care for her themselves at home and need to put her in a care facility.

they're in a horrible, tragic, terribly difficult situation and they're dealing with it with her best interests in mind and to the best of their abilities. good for them. i can't even begin to imagine what they are going through Astaghfirullah.

Re: Ashley X - The Pillow Angel

I agree with SGC

Re: Ashley X - The Pillow Angel

such a difficult, difficult process........
may Allah guide us all and help us to help those that deal with these challenges.

I honestly don't know what I would do.....perhaps I would take the same steps that they have...particularly when there is a team of doctors and therapists advising me.