do you become less picky about who you want to marry? They say as a girl ages, it becomes harder for her to get proposals. And most women end up marrying men younger then them or a lot older then them.
So do you think it’s because those women lower their standards, and just settle down with anyone out of desperation?
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Yes, we lower our standards because we have less men to choose from because fewer men want us because there are more younger girls out there.
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thats true with anything...human or cars...humans lower their expectations...older car models are reduced in prices. also, supply and demand too...more girls, less boys so u know! sad though!!!
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I think as you get older, you realize whats really important and whats not, and thats why your "standards" get lower. When your younger, its about looks and money, but as you get older, you realize that what you need is a kind man, who will be nice to you, take care of you, be a good husband and father.
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I think as you get older, you realize whats really important and whats not, and thats why your "standards" get lower. When your younger, its about looks and money, but as you get older, you realize that what you need is a kind man, who will be nice to you, take care of you, be a good husband and father.
Yes, we lower our standards because we have less men to choose from because fewer men want us because there are more younger girls out there.
Totally agreed =D
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I think as you get older, you realize whats really important and whats not, and thats why your "standards" get lower. When your younger, its about looks and money, but as you get older, you realize that what you need is a kind man, who will be nice to you, take care of you, be a good husband and father.
very well said! we mature as we age (or so we hope) and realize what is and isnt important! Ultimately you happiness does not depend on the materialistic stuff (to an extent) but on how the other person is; how they treat you, their personality, their thought process etc etc. the "grown up" stuff =)
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but what if you are settling for someone whose dishonest, lies, been around etc etc, and knowingly you settle for such a person because you feel you're old and can't get anyone better, then what?
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^^ Well in such a case I'd prefer staying single then settling down for such a jerk person. Marriage is not the end of this world that you should force yourself to settle with the wrong person. There is so much you can do with your life so there is no need to ruining it with a wrong person.
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do you become less picky about who you want to marry?
I think its quite the opposite actually. I think people become pickier because the criteria is not so easy to meet any longer. Its not hard to find an educated, decent looking guy. Its hard to find an educated, decent looking guy who clicks with you.
I think as you get older, you realize whats really important and whats not, and thats why your "standards" get lower. When your younger, its about looks and money, but as you get older, you realize that what you need is a kind man, who will be nice to you, take care of you, be a good husband and father.
Bingo. The lowering of the standards is not what it seems...I think women or men tend to look for qualities that arent so.....................obvious. Things that a biodata cannot cover and that makes them pickier. Sometimes you might find an average looking guy who has a heart of gold. Does that mean you have lowered your standards? I dont think so.
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What are the 'standards'?? could anyone define please?
and what 'standard' is yours?? in such a case..what do you have to offer to be more picky?
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^:lajawab:
I suppose with age you become mature, and sensible. Life is more practical vs the Ekta Kapoor drama’s. No matter what age a woman is at.. doubt she lowers any ‘standards’ it’s all about compatibility.
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It shouldnt be this way but unfortunately that's what happens. I think age is overrated, as long as the couple has 1-2 yrs difference it shud be fine. Infact even if they r same age wats the issue? Our Prophet (p.b.u.h) married someone alot older to him so that shows there is nothing wrong with it. I am not saying everyone should go for it, suit yourself but dont judge others for it. I know i wouldnt be comfortable marrying someone younger than me or marrying someone more than 5yrs older to me but that doesnt give me any rite to judge others who do.
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What are the 'standards'?? could anyone define please? and what 'standard' is yours?? in such a case..what do you have to offer to be more picky?
Hmmm...did you read my entire response at all?
Okay, just in case you didnt understand:
Standards are particular to each individual but when you're younger, you have expectations of a handsome and educated knight in shining armour. The expectation of someone being handsome can be satisfied with a picture. The education with the verification of a degree. These are things you can see, touch and feel. Going back to my original point of finding someone who is decent looking and educated being not hard.
When you become picky, its usually about things less tangible. Like honesty, sense of humor, wit, religion, manners, tact, etc etc etc. This is much harder to verify in someone because that requires getting to know them on a personal level and arranged marriages dont work that way for most people.
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age doesn't really matter, insaan ka nature andar se saaf hona chahiye, honest, good hearted, respectful etc. This is the stuff that matters...aaj kul log dikhawa bohat kartay hain ke they're good, shareef etc, and they lie and lie when it comes to relationship matters, because everyone wants to wound up married right? aur phir saara sach baad mein saamnay aata hai, and by then it's too late. Marriage is really a gamble.
I knew 3 girls who were getting married to these guys who personally (in my head) I thought weren't right for them. I simply evaluated those girls and their life styles with the guys, and during the whole rishta process I didn't say anything because I didn't want their mamla to get kharab, after all who am I to intervene in their decisions and their families decisions. So what happened, all three marriages ended in divorce. And I felt, maybe if I had said something or tried to stop it this wouldn't have happened. And people make comments like "it was Allah's will"
WTH?!?!? No it's not Allah's will, its your dumb decision to go into a marriage without properly evaluating it. Allah has given us free will, he has given us a brain, he has provided us with resources so we can become educated and knowledgeable, and when it comes time to use ur brain in matters of relationships, people became brain dead and don't think logically and rush into a marriage! It makes me mad! My friend is in the same boat, she likes this guy but he's not good for her. Initially he was wonderful and she'd tell me how perfect he is etc..and I kept telling her.."shuru shuru mein sab achay hotay hain, give it some time and he will show u his asli colors" so what ends up happening, they meet a few times, and he disrespects her and he puts restrictions on her like don't do this, don't say that, don't wear that. He's even lied about stuff. And when she told me, I was like get rid of him because I went through something similar. Her brother who is the most unbiased guy in the world also said he's not right, but she likes him and won't listen, she feels like she's old now and she can't be picky, and she has to settle for someone like that. The only good thing about her family is that they're thinking straight and are against the rishta, so I'm not worried. But it bothers me how people think just because they're older they have to settle for someone whose lower in character than them.
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I think the older you get, the less time you have to waste so finding the right person becomes even more important.