Re: Arrgghh!!
Thanks guys, for trying to make me feel better…i appreciate it.
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BarbieGirl**, yea they r 
**Sadaf**, yea u have a point...it's just that ppl always tell me that it's impt to get along with each others' friends...and these couple of guys i'm talking about r really close to him...they have been friends like 15 yrs, and they consider each other cousins...and they even live in the same house...so it's just frustrating...but yes, i know i can't please them...just makes me angry about the stereotypes that's all.
**blushingvision**, see this is the thing...the whole time i have been with him, he respects the fact that i am a reserved person (not all girls are)...he never wants me to change etc., but lately he says that yea....i wud like it if u came here (whereas previously, he understood y i cudn't)...we have been in a long distance-relationship for more than 2 yrs now...it was never an issue, his friends never said anything before...but since our engmnt. about a year ago...it's always like, "y doesn't she come her for a change" or "she shud just come, u guys r engaged now"...my thinking is, just cos i'm engaged doesn't mean i'm gonna change the way i thought before hand also...i hope i'm making sense haha (it's late here and i only slept 4 hrs. last nite)...i am a private person, and my fiance knows that...but ppl r gona interfere anyway, u know wot i mean...esp., since these guys r all *brotherly* with him.
**CrashDummie**, yea same here. But, i think even if i cud i wouldn't mind waiting cos i really don't wanna go to the place where he lives rite now (i know that's a whole other story :D )
**TheNewWannaBe**, LOLZ! :D U know, i actually saw someone do that...a couple months back the girl who married my cousin...ur sis described excatly wot that woman did...it was so embarrassing and my family was so shocked haha!
**Browneyedbeauty**, yes unfortunately that's another word also...all a bunch of bollocks! :mad: Y r ppl so judgemental...not all girls r the same yea :)
**sooraj-mukhi**, thanks! Yes, that's excatly how i feel about it.
**aahmed** **grinning**
**Sara516** :rotfl:I loved that piece of sarcasm hehe...thanks a lot hun :hug:
**MadScientist** :( No not really...see, my parents mite love me enough to be ok with me choosing my own partner...but they have always been strict about travelling...i have never travelled without one of them...that's just how they r...how u choose to get married and getting to travel on ur own far away, are two different things...at least in my family.
**Fraudz**, define wot u mean by "independent"...i mean i don't live alone...my parents support me...the only "independent" thing i have done in my life is to choose my own partner really...i just don't like comments like the ones i have heard, i find them a little insulting...for ex) i was telling TNWB about my new bhabi and wot kind of dulhan she was...my fiance and his family watched that video...they thought the same as my family did about it...that is was shameful the way the couple was behaving...like with the first dance...tradtionally we don't have that at our weddings, but they decided to...in front of all their elders...my thinking is, ok u love each other...we all know that...u don't have to prove it to everyone, by holding, kissing and dancing in front of ur relatives...ok so my fiance thought it was wrong rite...a few weeks later, the same guy friend goes "hey i have a great idea for u two for ur first dance"...my fiance told him, no wait, we will not be having one cos she is not like that...then jokingly added, "she's more pakistani than she seems"...anway, i didn't mind that...but sometimes i feel my fiance feels one way and then when his friends say i shud be like this, or the wedding shud be like that, it pisses me off cos they r just generalising and they don't even know me. **sighs** wot can i do...i have to ignore it i suppose.
**saimanyc**, my family (and even his) r not that cool...i wud even feel uncomfortable being at his home with my family (overnight, that is)...i think families shudn't get too involved before the wedding...u have ur whole marriage for that stuff...actually to me, urs sounds more kinda arranged...even though i have been alone with my fiance hundreds of times, it's just totally different mingling altogether with our families...he feels the same way...for us, it's better when we sneak around to see each other...i guess cos that's how it has been for 5 years now.