Re: Arranged to marry at 16, not feeling right...
shalwaar qameez is just pakistani apparel you can google it for pictures,
and i meant that you coluld perhaps talk to the guy on the phone? it would'nt be so hard to get his number if he's a cousin.
Also, Racist?? Swoon over them more like it and given preferential treatment wherever they go. ive lived in the middle east all my life, and ive seen how fair ppl (esp. Americans/British) get the best jobs and salaries! So all u'll face here is either admiration or jealousy, not racism.
i agree with pyaree, talk to the guy, or anyone else in your family or loved ones u think would listen.
there are so many excuses you could make, just to delay the process. by the by, that story about that aunt of yours is so oft-repeated, ive heard it before.
pakistan is not the safe haven it used to be (if it ever was that) we have suicide bombings here almost every other day, and with the taliban and all, maybe you can convince your parents that u dont want to go to pk for solely security reasons,
other things u cud do: crying, throw tantrums (last resort though), but ur parents and relatives are being childish and immature, its not the norm even in pakistan to marry their girls at such a young age. besides, i can see a host of medical problems popping up, all of them affecting YOUR physical and Mental wellbeing.