Bobby1
March 3, 2017, 10:55pm
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Re: Arranged marriages issues in the UK
“What do you think should be done to bring both genders in the middle to accept each other? and make the matrimonial process easy?”
I think there shouldn’t be so much separation. Even at university, I saw how segregated formal meetings of MSA were and people talked bad about anyone who tried to break the barrier. Ironically though, the students who organized these meetings had no problem being very close to each other after the meetings… so much so that around 60-70% got married to each other.
There was this stigma, girls didn’t want to approach any guy because they were afraid of being perceived as being desperate, yet I found out through non-muslim friends that these so called religious guys, some even hafiz-e-quran, were dating white girls on the low key. And others who weren’t so religious drank and partied every weekend.
From what I saw when we were looking for rishta for my sister, 1/3 were not very educated, 1/3 were looking to get married for papers, and finally 1/3 who seemed to have it all on paper, good education, good job etc. were social drinkers and were not going to quit anytime soon.
You young people have to fight the traditions and be strong enough to not worry about anyone saying anything, some of the best people I know drink socially, my BIL is the most amazing husband and father and his kids are stars and he is a modern man. How you treat your children, wife and people is so much more important than an odd cocktail.