Arranged marriages issues in the UK

[Bobby1]

Re: Arranged marriages issues in the UK

@Chicken_Biryani

So I was watching this programme on TV last night called Extremely British Muslims . It was about young girls and boys trying to find arranged matches from themselves .

In the end , I realized that the issue is quite real to find the right spouse here in the UK , specially so for muslims coz arranged marriage is still seen as the most acceptable way forward .

So the girls , become way too honest and say to the potential suitor things like " I wanna travel , no kids immediately , want to work as a priority , need you to cook and look after kids too etc "

The boys say "no mixing with boys, wife should be homely , cook for me , no going on holiday alone, less social interaction, etc "

So the clash seems to be greatly in the expectations both genders have with each other , eventually leading to both parties not finding the right spouses and even when they think they have , both arent ready to compromise enough to get it to work and end up divorcing , leading to high divorce ratios.

What do you should be done to bring both genders in the middle to accept each other? and make the matrimonial process easy?

This topic as a parent and an uncle to dozens is very dear to me. I am youngest of 8 and my wife of 7. You can’t change the world but can adapt to changes. War of the gender is real and is not limited to desis. We have scores of multinational kids hang at our place and I am surprised as to how much animosity there is amongst genders.
My thinking is to prepare kids for multiple relationships. Raise them to be gender neutral meaning they don’t need a girl to cook and clean. The more flexible you are about race, religion and culture the more chances of success. My wifes nephew married a Hiindu girl from Guyana and they are a hugely successful couple. My one nephew is marrying a Vietnamese girl, the other dating a Hindu and another with a Syrian girl. When I read in GS rishta only syed, punjabi etc I know the limited pool to draw from will create a challenge.

The otherside is that some people have nothing to offer yet demands are out of the world. I knew these young girls, werent that educated, couldn’t do housework, were lazy althoug dressed in expensive outfits and had designer purses yet their expectations was a tall handsome millionaire who will cook and clean for them