Is there any way to get out of arranged marriage? Please help…
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Yes, just say no to the Molvie when he asks “Kabool hai?” No matter what anyone says if you say no. What can they possibly do to you? Apart from the Chinese water torture.
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They can give a very naraz look…
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A coerced nikah can be invalidated.
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Still better than not being happy the rest of your life.
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I doubt the naraz look matters if one takes the step to refuse at the time of nikah rather than earlier.
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Creating drama at a wedding function at eleventh hour is not a wise thing…
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You can pretend to be possessed by a Jinn!!! I have seen that happen before, just practice rolling your pupils inside the eyelids.
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Or just pass out right at the Nikkha ceremony. The old aunties will consider it a bad omen and dip.
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How about just have a spine and tell your parents no! Right now while they are trying to get you Arranged Married.
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Yes… say no before any further meeting…
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If you’re gonna say no thwn do it long before the wedding cause you’re gonna end up wasting a lot of money and time.
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Wait, is this getting out of an arranged marriage as it has yet to happen?
Then simply talk to your parents/ guardians. Forced marriages are harm in Islam.
If it’s an arranged marriage and you’re already married and you’re unhappy then there are multiple actions and steps you can take to either resolve or leave.
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Talk to your parents or siblings or some trusted relative that can reason with parents on your behalf. And if (hopefully) wedding preparations haven’t started yet…tell the guy/girl that you don’t want to marry them.
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This is already ***. I tried all things to talk to them even telling them about my dreams and things to do. The wedding is to take place next year.
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Talk to the guy directly & explain him why you don’t want this right now.
Why you agreed to begin with if you had other things to do?
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What help do you need? Why do you think simply saying no won’t work?
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Where are you? If you are in Europe for example, we have places for females in your position to go to. But remember, this is only the last step, which shouldn’t be taken lightly. If you would take it, think about how many in Pakistani society would hate you for it, if that would be worth it for you. If you would marry next year, perhaps things wouldn’t be as bad as you fear now, but you can’t be sure about that. Maybe you would really be unhappy for the rest of your life. It’s a difficult decision.
If you don’t want an unhappy marriage, and nobody in your family is listening to you, willing to help you, then perhaps the only step left is to leave home and join a shelter for females. Then you’d anger so many people, so many would hate you for it, perhaps your life in society would never be normal again. But at least you escaped this unwanted marriage.
If you don’t want to lose your life in society, if you don’t want to anger your family and family friends, if you don’t want to lose contacts dear to you, than that means going forward with that unwanted marriage. Life in society would be normal, but you’d be unhappy in personal life, unsure if perhaps you’d start getting used to him and his family and start liking him. Perhaps one day you’d still become happy with him, who knows? And if not, at least people in your family and society don’t hate you in this case.
This is an unfair choice to make. May Allah help and guide you to the best decision for you.
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Do you have siblings or other relatives who can help you fight your corner?
If not, what about a family friend who can make your parents see sense?