arranged marriage

i'm living in Canada

Re: arranged marriage

Ok, so be prepared about issues regarding someone from Pakistan moving to Canada. It's not an easy thing.

If you work, he has to be ok with that.
If you wear hijab or not, he has to be ok with that.
If you grew up with guy friends and still keep in touch with them, he has to be ok with that.

And try to get his employment issues sorted out before he gets there. A guy lounging around at home looking for a job is just trouble. They get so insecure and then become pushy to assert their dominance.

And take a look at what some of the girls here who did import from Pakistan, had to go through.

Pakistani men, some, are very modernized and are DYING to live a more western lifestyle and are already living it there. Find out how much he's travelled, how cultured he is.

And don't expect that he's a virgin or some holy guy. They're not all goody-two-shoes over there.

There will be adjustment issues because he'll be moving from one culture to another. YOU are responsible for this, because you could very well have married someone already in Canada.

Why not look for someone in Canada?

i actually think the above is true..especially in an arranged marriage...may not be the case in a love marriage.

^ i think its cos she said her parents cant find her anyone suitable