Re: Arranged marriage - First Meeting
i second X2... a phone call is in no way a great way to break the ice.. i HATE talkin on the phone and cant at all explain myself on it.. i need eye contact and a person's body language speaks a million.
when i started off my relationship with my husband, we were introd thru his cousin... and the first suggestion was talkin on the phone (since we lived in diff countries).. i said a clear no cuz i knew i just could not get my point across... so we used to chat online.. and boy were there misunderstandings... again.. cuz you just dont know the other person, never met, so u have no clue in what sense they are saying something, nor can you see their body language...
so unless their talkin on the phone skills are superb.. i would suggest meeting in person. since both know they are meeting up with regards to marriage.. im sure they can talk bout what they are looking for in a spouse... dont get too heavily into it.. but lay some basic groundwork... and even if they dont discuss anything related to what they want from their spouse... or what they are looking for... just talkin bout general everyday stuff can tell a whole lot bout a person...
my brother was recently set up by a friend of his, and he and the girl decided to meet in person rather than chat on the phone, again cuz both thought it rather silly.. you live in the same city, why not meet up.. you get a much better understanding of the other person... they talked bout themselves... their lifestyles, hobbies etc... and the meeting lasted 2 hours :D cuz they both had a lot to say...
they both decided at the end of the first meet to meet up again, cuz one meet is not enuff.
a few more meetings later they both decided nah, it just isnt coming along... and went their ways... but both kept their conversations light but at the same time, centered around marriage and are you the one.
one thing they should both do is keep a broad mind.. and go in expecting anything and eveyrthing.