Re: Arranged Marriage and all that hoop-laa
Im not going to sugar coat this so here goes:
A forced nikah is wrong in Islam…and since what your parents are doing is against Islam…you’re allowed to refuse this marriage. The only time its okay to refuse your parents is when they’re doing something unIslamic.
I do not understand what is stopping you from making your point and standing up for yourself? The fear of having to leave your home? Leave! Do you realize you’re playing with fire? TWO lives are at stake here…not just yours. His too. What do you think he will get if he marries you and figures out that you dont even like him? Disappointment? Resentment? He might hate you for saying yes when you actually meant no.
Sometimes parents do things out of fear of leaving their single unmarried girls behind with no one to look out for them. They go a little bonkers out of love for their daughters…because we are nazuk and need mard ka sahara according to them. They do and say unreasonable things. None of it makes sense to us. You need to quietly deliver your decision and stand by it.
You will have to be much tougher than this.
p.s. - are you attracted to him at all?