Arranged Marriage 101

Lifestyle Relationships
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***So considering that your not really given all that much time to make your decision…what are the key factors that one should be aware off ??

You’ll probably get to meet them or talk to them a couple of times and your asked to decide …seeing as you can’t really get to know the real person in a few meetings and they are probably gonna be on their best behavior , those couples that did have an arranged marriage , what made you decide this is the one ???***

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A magnum. :chai:

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Knowledge :chai: ..and that fact that she served me :chai: all the time we met :smiley:

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:shikari:

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Why does everyone thinks i’m gonna threaten the guy with dire consequencessss !!! :hehe:

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Do the due diligence so that you do not end up in a pickle .
Also remember anybody can change anytime there is no guarantee that the one you marry after all the due diligence would not turn into something different a few years after the marriage.

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important things in lil time/meetings:

-Does he seem interested in talking to you?
-What are his carrier decisions? Does he care about yours..
-Is he polite? confident?
-What is his relation with parents and siblings like? is this important to him...

i dont think in arrange marriages, in which you only get to meet 2-3 times there is room for asking about past relations.. or is there? If you have few months, then yes if you would like to know.

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I would definitely go for a meeting at some restaurant for a decent meal. I remember, one of my teacher said that

*If you have to see the nature, reality and how behaved he is then look at him
- When he is eating
- When he is angry
- When he is making jokes
*

of course i can't make her angry .. but i can talk to her and have jokes over a dine out :) .. ..

Thats what i THINK and reality is way different than practical life

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^ actually the things you mentioned are truly important. it shows caracteristics, which people can hide only for lil while..

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Kafi muskil kaam hai boss to judge. But i think there is no need really just be sure you like the family and the prospect is attractive enough for you. Other than that even in luv marriages you cnt really tell abt the other person unless u get married. Everything changes after marriage cuz b4 that u r nt living with them.

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Judge or not , in the end they all are same . :D

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How does he behave around elders

When he is out, how does he treat others like waiters or someone at the drive thru

Does he scowl a lot? I dont know why but it seems people who scowl a lot or make a lot of faces have quick tempers. Just my observation.

His nails...are they clean and cut short (not manicured, just cut and clean)

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crap .. I bite my nails and they are horrible .. :| ..

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Again, the emphasis is on clean and cut short.

Clean nails indicate good hygiene.

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You just can't judge and make a decision on one or two meetings. Moreover, people behave differently when they know that they are being watched and judged.

In an Arranged Marriage, one should tell his/her parents that if they think that that certain person will be able to adjust with their mood, likes, habits and lifestyle than they should move forward.

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TRue i agree

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this is how i see it.. if you cant impress me over the top when you are 'supposed' to be on your best behavior then its a no-no for sure