Arranged mangni....

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Re: Arranged mangni…

@Sara516

why in the world would you agree to marry someone you’ve never even spoken to?

not all of us are as privileged as MASHALLAH you and a lot of other people are. i have to make a do with what ever choice i have in my life. agay ALLAH malik hai.

@cutefifa

Its a good idea to discuss this issue with your parents and involve them. Your parents can talk to his parents that you both should talk before finalizing things. In this way you wouldn’t have to initiate the contact with him.

i wish i was able to ask my parents, and discuss this issue. agar cheezain itni hi aasan hoti tu main yahan aa kay advice kiyon lay rahi hoti??

@Jaanwar

I am sure he is a nice guy, but if I was you I would meet the guy in person at least once. Interacting on Facebook and MSN etc. is bollocks. You ought to meet the guy face to face, talk to him and ask him what his expectations are and tell him yours. You should know in your first meeting if you feel any attraction towards the guy in terms of his looks and personality and the other way around. That is the minimum, albeit pretty much all you can do, risk management you need before jumping into a relationship.

i don’t have that choice. i live in america. they guy is in pakistan. i wish i was able to meet him or talk to him, but i can’t. as i said before, what i wrote above is my situation, i wish things weren’t the way they are. but there is nothing i can do about it. ab jo hai osi mai guzara karna hai.

@starberry1

Definitely discuss it with your parents, and see what they suggest. However, I would recommend if it is possible do try to have some kind of contact before you agree because despite him sounding great, it is really strange being engaged to somebody you don’t really know. Plus it gets even more awkward after you have said yes, and from my experience, harder to justify a reason to talk to them.

i thought about it, but i am not in a situation to have any decent contact with him (via family).

@Decent_6Chora

Ya Allah jub hum dhoondh rahey theey tu aisee Allah miaaan ki gaeey kahaaaaN theeN

ALLAH ka shukar ada karain sir, aap ki wife MASHALLAH always sound really nice when ever you mentioned her here.
i am not ALLAH mian ki ga’ey (as in ahmaq or masoom) but i just don’t have that many choices, where i have a choice to meet the guy and then decide if i want to marry him or not.
besides that, i really believe in ALLAHTALA, marriages are really big deal, it wouldn’t really just happen without reasons, i am really sure who ever ALLAHTALA is going to pick for me is going to be the best guy in my favor. Not all the marriages have happy endings, mine may, or may not have a happy ending either, but what ever it is, it’s going to be from ALLAHTALA, i am just going to try my best to do my best in the given situation.