Re: arrange setup
Well what I plan to do for my brother in the future, (if he already has not selected any girl for himself), I would ask my mom NOT to just keep on visiting innumerable girls families. We should just gather as much fact about her like age, education, height, family background, picture ect everything through email etc. We can just accept the girl in this preliminary stage or move on to other potential and then only visit those we are very much sure of from the detailed information we already collected. We can avoid taking the guy unless we plan to take the matter forward to save the girl from embarrasment.
I have been through unfortunate rishta visits where the guy had a demand of 5’8 girl and the family still visited me (I am 5’6) and then the told rishta wali aunty that the girls height is not that much although they KNEW my height before coming. So I do not want other girls to go through such useless visits.
Any other suggestion from anyone is most welcome. May be we the new generation can take some steps towards trying to minimise this cattle market tradition.