arrange marriages

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I don’t believe in dating, even tho that concept sounds really fun :slight_smile: but i’ll pass. so only option i got is arrange marriage but i am NOT marrying any girl unless i get to know her but if most families don’t allow this then it limits my options. My family said you got engagement period but i am not going thr that just to get to know her only to say no at the end, makes it much harder.
for those who are living in Pakistan or visit there often. Do parents allow their daughter(s) to talk to the guy one-on-one? Do they allow more than one conversation even tho guys family hasn’t said yes? How common is that now?

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it's all in the phone aj kal in Pakistan ; )

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Don't date but send email

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cam to cam

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this topic was discussed b4 at length :)

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No parent in their right mind should let you anywhere near their daughter.

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:omg:

Everything’s easy with skype bro.

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Why do you want to get to know her?

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Could u not get to know her, go out to restaurants etc. but just take other people/a family member with u so ur not left alone?

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Can you imagine talking to your potential wife with a family member watching? Restaurants are public places anyway so I don't think that should be necessary.

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3-4 meetings in "controlled" environments and few phone conversations are enough to know someone to say "haan" or "na".

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^ what constitutes a "controlled environment"??

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I know many couples who have met 5-6 times before marriage at either girl's place or at guy's place. They were at home but alone. After initial personal meetings its easy to carry a phone conversation.

I would even say that meet at some restaurant for quick lunch if both families are ready to facilitate that and know exactly what are you guys upto. As long as you are meeting for the purpose of finding out compatibility, I dont see any problem in it but this can not go on and on. As I said, 2/3 personal meetings and supplementary phone conversations are enough to feel the water.

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ok..

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LOL

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Zong lo aur sub keh doo :slight_smile:

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A few of my cousins would meet their potentials in restaurants and have their relatives or whoever sit right the other side by the door or something so they couldn't hear what was being said but at the same time they could see nothing funny was going on..I don't think that's so bad..

Agree it's not really necessary in a public place anyway but some families are still a bit strict about that stuff (bit weird considering their kids have plenty of opportunity to mix with and do whatever they like at uni etc)..

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awww sara still upset :(

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any girl that got cam going, i am NOT interested.

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so just get married to someone i dont know
i am just scared ill get one of you (women on GS).