Well I just had a small argument with my fiance. Well, i am wondering what do you guys do when you have an argument over something? who is the first one to break the silence? do you sit down talk bout it or just pretend nothing happened n go back to normal?
i noticed that usually we don’t talk then the next day i eventually call him and be normal. but he never does. i have to be the first one to break the silence, which is bad because i would like to see him make that effort sigh .
Please share your thoughts and experience. Maybe i will get some new ideas
I hope you guys talk about what caused the argument when you call him. It's not healthy to just act normal and ignore the problem. That's probably why he's taking this for granted.. he knows that you'll call and be normal so he doesn't have to worry about solving the issue.
Maybe when you can talk about the cause of the argument, you can also tell him that you'd like for him to make an effort to resolve arguments in the future. It's hard to break the silence if one doesn't know how to get past the argument.
i don't have any1 to argue with but if i had 1 i wud forgive and forget and even if its isn't my fault and i will give her a hug...no words spoken...a hug is the key to a lovely relationship...did u hug ur loved1 today? if not, go and give a hug...thank u :)
U should always try to resolve the issue so that it doesnt happen again. It also helps build understanding and good communication. Arguments are part of a healthy relationship.. I think there is nothign wrong with them.... its an issue when u dont talk about the problem though...
And, it doesnt matter who breaks the silence. At the end of the day, if the issue is resolved, that is more important
In my relationship i never call…he always calls the next day (small arguments he will call few hours later) and ignores the whole issue…but i m the one who wuld say…“i m still mad at what was said or done, and we need to talk abt it.”
most of the time we really dont “talk” abt it…just talk abt what not to do for next time.
this works out just fine…Mashallah we been together 5 years
Thanks for all your replies. Although it seems like a good idea to talk about it. but I think it depends on the issues. if the argument was very pointless or on some small matter is there really a need to beat the snake out of it? I agree if it something huge then there is a need. I find that if i bring it up again he gets a lil irritated and sometimes even we go back to the same point as we were at last.
Which makes me wonder, you know how the old wives tale goes that you shouldnt talk to him and see him that often after engagement till wedding. Is it true? does that eliminates these small stresses in the relationship?
My guy and i have been like best friends before anything so for me to stop talking to him just cause i am engaged to him seems like impossible. Yet, the expectations have changed and i can see why people would recommend that.
i think the idea bout not talking between engagement and marriage is exactly to makes sure there arent any arguements..cos an engagement isnt set in stone it doesnt really bind u to ur other half..
