How does your family resolve arguments within the family? Do they raise their voices or is it like ‘I understand where you are coming from but I have my own values’ kinda thing? Do people sulk quietly or are very open about it?
And would it be correct to say that most Desi families can’t cope with arguments in the families well because of the respect hierarchy system starting from the youngest to the head of the house hold?
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Loudest person wins.
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my family hmmmmm depends on who is involved, and what you mean by family
my wife and I usually resolve it quite well, but at times would rather not get into it and address it later. so far we have not been mad at one another for more than a day.
my parents- things are said arguments take place. Usually its not about anything major and they just go away.
my siblings- either we will not have a disagreement, or if we do, it will be resolved quickly. very rarely we will get mad, but it gets resolved very quickly, we are too close to see another hurt by our actions. even if the difference is not resolved. My sister hates to be wrong, so we try not to get in silly arguments with her.
extended family..khala, chacha-mamay
diff ppl are diff, and while with most arguments stay civil, there are a few hot heads, and a few who will just keep grudges forever...some arguments in the khandaan have been going on for decades are are still not resolved.
all kindsa flavours man...
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I like to win and Whoop on people. I am always ready to argue, fight and win.
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^ and being ready does not mean you always win your arguments, going by your track record on GS :P
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Hm…its been a while since we’ve had an argument. Lately my parents will say stuff to me, but I’ve begun the approach of reproaching them softly and scolding them…“Aap yeh kaise keh rahe ho? Don’t you know that will just upset me and bring me down and then make it all worse? I need your support now, not your arguments”.
Works like a charm :halo:
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You expect people to come and divulge this top secret info on a public message board ahmadjee? 
gosh, burgers 
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We talk a lot... its the best way to resolve arugments.
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I beat my wives to a pulp. They are so scared that they don't argue anymore. They just agree.
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Mamaof3!!! Look what this bum is saying about you!!!
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I think we need to change her name from mamaof3 to sotan of 3.
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Scream.
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Haha.... I kick @$$ of whoever is wrong no matter who. But I do that in different ways. I've changed my attitude now. I let the other make his/her point but after they give up then I explain how I see the issue. It does not matter whether they agree with me or not. What's important is that I stick to what I believe is right and eventually, they start to see things through my perspective... HAHAHAHAHAAAA .... I mean then I find it funny... why they wasted so much time arguing when in the end they tell me I was right.
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same as Shahreen - the loudest one wins.
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may family’s weird…they synchronously turn their heads to the youngest…
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If argument is between Hubby and I, He wins in public. Later however, I let him know just how wrong he was smile.
As far as the kids go, we rule and we have to rule united. So discuss first then lay the law down. Sometimes people (ahem, the kids) don't agree with us, but no one said parents have to be fair :-), just right all the time, lol.
Outside the family, with my mom and I, hate to say it, but we just yell, scream, lay guilt trips, then agree that we disagree. As bad as it sounds, it's good therapy.