Im here to get the advice from you the people. My Saas dont like me…she want to kill me. She wake me up every morning to make her khandaan fatty breakfast and then compaining I give her high blood pressure. She make me do the pocha in her house and then walking with her bare feet everywhere making marks so I have to do all over again. Everytime Im in the kitchen cooking her fatty food, I turn around and she is standing there with a dabba of petrol in her hand and matches in another. Do you think she want to burn me alive? She make me do maalish on her head but she dont shower :(. What can I do? My life is so the bad! I cant even go anywhere shopping, she always wants me to bring her samosas…and lots of them! All my money goes to feeding her when I go out. I dont know what to do anymore…she the hate me!
Bahu........are you serious? Or is this meant to be a joke/ exaggeration? Because people who are actually experiencing such cruelty from their in-laws will not be amused. If you're being serious, then I sincerely sympathize with you. I find it ironic that your saas wants you to take care of her....and then she also wants to burn you alive with a petrol tank. Doesn't make sense. One would think that since she's so dependent on you.....that she'd want you alive.
In situations like this....sometimes I wonder how effective the idea of secretly videotaping/recording the saas would be. And then making multiple copies of video/recording for safety. And then proceeding to expose the reality of the saas to one's unbelieving husband and family.
If you're putting up with this abuse on a daily basis and are not getting any support from your husband....perhaps it's time to consider reporting (with concrete evidence) the situation to someone with authority who can help...perhaps someone from your family, or an imam, etc. Life is too short to deal with this bull crap. You're not her servant. And one can't continue to be patient and tolerant for too long. Eventually the offender needs to be put into their place. Where is your husband in all this? Completely oblivious? Or a mama's boy?
guys , here is this girl with a serious issue and look what you are telling her ... a person's life is not a joke , instead of helping Bahu in her situation you are only making the matters worse by telling her that you are suspecting her ...
Im here to get the advice from you the people. My Saas dont like me...she want to kill me. She wake me up every morning to make her khandaan fatty breakfast and then compaining I give her high blood pressure. She make me do the pocha in her house and then walking with her bare feet everywhere making marks so I have to do all over again. Everytime Im in the kitchen cooking her fatty food, I turn around and she is standing there with a dabba of petrol in her hand and matches in another. Do you think she want to burn me alive? She make me do maalish on her head but she dont shower :(. What can I do? My life is so the bad! I cant even go anywhere shopping, she always wants me to bring her samosas...and lots of them! All my money goes to feeding her when I go out. I dont know what to do anymore...she the hate me!
Help!
Bahu , I have a feeling your MIL is looking for attention ... coz often times what happens is that bahu gets really busy with household chores and gives all the attention to the husband and the husband gives all the gifts and attention to his wife ..
this can lead to jealousy ... and ultimately the MIL behaves similar to a little child that needs cuddling and love and attention...
do you think that might be one of the issues why she is always on your case?
As far as the saas not bathing at all is concerned. You should be ecstatic kiu ke pani ka bill kaam ayai ga na
jharo pocha apne husband se kerwain akhir woh bhi to motay hi hongay hongai
Put jamal kota in her samosas ainda nahin khayain gi
Massage her hair with turpentine
Leave kelay ke chilkay on floor InshAllah khud hi slip howain gi koi hadi waghera tootay gi aur phir aap ko lambay samay kaliyae koi paeshani nahin hogi
Im here to get the advice from you the people. My Saas dont like me...she want to kill me. She wake me up every morning to make her khandaan fatty breakfast and then compaining I give her high blood pressure. She make me do the pocha in her house and then walking with her bare feet everywhere making marks so I have to do all over again. Everytime Im in the kitchen cooking her fatty food, I turn around and she is standing there with a dabba of petrol in her hand and matches in another. Do you think she want to burn me alive? She make me do maalish on her head but she dont shower :(. What can I do? My life is so the bad! I cant even go anywhere shopping, she always wants me to bring her samosas...and lots of them! All my money goes to feeding her when I go out. I dont know what to do anymore...she the hate me!
Help!
Bitya, i am a mother in law and have two bahu's ... kabi socha na tha ki aise kehna paray ga ... but only bahu's dont have to suffer bitya.
my bahu never wakes up early , hazar dafa kaha that you must get up early , its a good habit , but no , she doesnt listen to me , is this fair that everyone gets up at 6:00 while bahu rani is just dozing off until 12:00 pm???
when i tell my bahu , bitya sir derd hai tora daba hi do ... she makes faces that i am pretending to be ill .. is that fair?
i know that saas bi kabi bahu thi .. so i know what bahu is going through but she has to make the effort to become like my daughter and love me wether i love her back or not she must make effort to win my love.
I am getting a feeling Bahu is defo a multi-nick & she is just making all this up…
I mean c’mon i have heard of saas being idiot/cruel etc etc but this latest story is taking saas cruelity to another level
I could be wrong but chances of me being wrong is just 1%.
I stopped believing this story as soon as i read this part
“She make me do the pocha in her house and then walking with her bare feet everywhere making marks so I have to do all over again. Everytime Im in the kitchen cooking her fatty food, I turn around and she is standing there with a dabba of petrol in her hand and matches in another. Do you think she want to burn me alive?”
As for fatty foods, make for her woh jaldi marreygi due to cholestrol and stuff aur tumhara faida hoga:@:
Jidher jidher unhoney chalna hotey haina paani mai kuch milao, slippery cheez aur woh phisl kar wafaar pa jayain:@: idea copied from MKD
Maalish is easy, jabh bhi malish karo itching oil se karo. Jabh itching hogi and she will ask you just say you have some skin condition and massage is very risky for your life! she will stop asking you to do it!
Samosas is even more easy. Put some “dakaar chooran” in it and she will do so many “dakaars” and get embarrassed that she will stop eating them. Or put some laxatives in the samosey when you bring them. Itni dafa loo jana pareyga usko keh bechari pagal hojeygi. If she tells you to change the store you get the samosey from, do the same thing and when she asks you ke masla kya hai tell her “Its your body sassu ma, it cant handle samosey anymore:( too many inside already:(” Jaan chout jayegi!
if this is a joke, then i suggest that its not very funny because many DIL face this kind of cruel treatment and its not fair to them.
secondly if you are serious, then get some help.
although maybe you are paranoid..? have you ever thought you may be exagerrating or paranoid or maybe ur mother in law has some form of mental illness.
she will stop asking you to do it!