Are you open to a joint-family living arrangement?

Lifestyle Relationships

Munni February 6, 2007, 1:52pm 1

By joint family I mean that for example if you are a guy, you are living with your wifes parents and or a sibling of hers that may be married.

If you are a girl, you are living with your husbands parents and possibly a sibling/siblings spouse as well.

And you are welcome to bring your own family along.

Yes, no, maybe? Why or why not?

Thanks.

mAd_ScIeNtIsT February 6, 2007, 1:54pm 2

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Define joint family.

zayma February 6, 2007, 2:07pm 3

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ummmm depends on the family

Gemini_the_Great February 6, 2007, 2:16pm 4

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nopse... it's too much drama!

I would rather live at a distance and visit them very often but living under one roof won't be my choice.

ps: I wasn't like this until I got married and only then my hubby instilled this in my mind that we are not living in a joint family ever!

wannabe_a_mum February 6, 2007, 2:24pm 5

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IMO it only works in bollywood films!!!

Distance makes the relationship stronger!!!

farishta2 February 6, 2007, 2:25pm 6

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I dont mind the joint family system..but there are certain rules that i would have to follow...
and no, i wouldnt like it if my husband moved in with me in parent's house. That would be too awkward. I wouldnt feel comfortable with him around my parents. But, if we were living at his house with his siblings, that would be a different story. Ofcourse, i have to have some privacy there.

wannabe_a_mum February 6, 2007, 2:37pm 7

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So does anyone think that the ghar jamaai concept EVER works? Has anyone any experience of this?

My dad was a ghar jamaai and everyone blames that for the fact that my parents got divorced after 7 years of marriage

zayma February 6, 2007, 2:39pm 8

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wats a ghar jamaai?

wannabe_a_mum February 6, 2007, 4:14pm 9

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When the guy moves in with his wife's family (his in laws) instead of the more traditional other way round

Amani06 February 6, 2007, 4:50pm 10

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Oh man i always say in these threads abt joint families that i have no in laws which i dont. However if i did have in laws from a very selfish point of view id love the babysitting on tap and the fact they'd help so much with the children. I do miss not having in laws. Would have been interesting to see what they would have been like esp as my daughter looks nothing like me but is the spitting image of her father.

Sara516 February 6, 2007, 5:37pm 11

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i was stayinjg with my husband's family for erm 5 days or so after marriage.. but that was a completely different experience, i had no problems ther at all but that's only because i knew I wudnt be there for long so i had to "stick it out" (not that that was an impossible task ;)).

Decent_6Chora February 6, 2007, 5:42pm 12

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Two families under one roof? r you mad?

Living with in laws is one thing but managing 2 families under one roof is next to impossible. To much of a task to live a happy life. Wasiey bhee, what do they say
** Qadar kho daita hai rooz ka milna jhulna **

chacha_Ghalib February 6, 2007, 5:56pm 13

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ghar jamaai nahin hota ... ghar jawaai hota hai punjabi main aur urdu main ghar damaad :)

hsap February 6, 2007, 6:33pm 14

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i've see such a case only once in my lifetime , just recently , there's a couple whose like friends to me ..................where the girl's mom & dad lived togather with (mom's sis) khala & khaloo for all their life , khala & khaloo hav no kids of their own so they consider that girl and her 2 brothers like their own kids................ think i might be possible in inter-family marriages.

but for me ................ a big NO .................... b/c i'll never consider such thing.

shweetdreamz February 6, 2007, 10:28pm 15

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i agree

canpaki February 6, 2007, 10:30pm 16

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i wud rather live far as possible as door hone se pyar bertha haii…

Orpheus February 6, 2007, 10:35pm 17

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I'm already working on getting my own place...lived with parents long enough.

Munni February 6, 2007, 10:39pm 18

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For those of you saying no, what will you do if your parents asked to move in with you? And what will you do when your parents get older? Ask them to move down the street, live with the sibling that IS willing to live with them, retirement home? Whats the plan? Thanks.

Also, please keep the responses coming. Thanks.

canpaki February 6, 2007, 10:41pm 19

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cant say no to ur parents…
retirement home…NO WAY…

m a gurl…i ges mr bros shud think abt tht na:phati:

Sara516 February 7, 2007, 1:10am 20

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If they asked then they're more than welcome to come. That goes for my parents and his.