Hey Ya :)
Excellent points mentioned Arch and BoSS.
So lets see... hmm...db jumps right back into the battle field Naraa-e-takbeeer.... Echos... ** Allah-O-Akbar!** j.k. :D
getting serious :0| <- thats a serious face rite?
*** posted by BoSS...**
yes it is a kind of a mask....I wear this mask quite often because I prefer it over immature confrontation. In my eyes its not dodging but a mature way of disagreeing.*
Interesting... so that means... there are certain masks which may come in handy to us, while dealing with ppl outside. smiles
Don't u guys think, that perhaps we play multiple roles which kind of ties in with our entired persolity, and all those characteristic builds just one person?
For I know, I can certainly say that yes, I may be a different person being outside, and an entirely different individual while being at home.
What I get confused about is that, some ppl have a hard time accepting them, when they've made this set impression about them due to whatever their resonings may be. And some just can't help wanting to stick to the image they've had about them right in the first place. As soon as they see that particular image breaking down, they want to deny it.
I remember, when I was a teenager, I used to hold on firmly to the first impressions or certain image of a person that my own inner self wud initiate. I remember setting certain limitations for people. I mean, I wud have expectations and wud expect ppl behaving in certain ways. When ever they'd do something opposite, or whenever they'd screw up, the image that I'd have wud shatter in an instant. I've always had a hard time trying to mend that broken crack in the mirror that'd occur. I was against the phenomena of giving ppl a 2nd chance. I'd stay friends but won't feel the same closeness I would as I had before. Same wud be the case with relative.
Now, that has changed altogether for me. FOr which I'm quite thankful for. However, now tell me either of you... what shall be the suitable justification at this instance regarding my former question right in the beging? I mean... the fact that once a person finds a person not meeting certain expectations, why is it hard for mortals to accept the differences? I mean not just that we do that with others, but we do that to our selves as well. We sometimes look into the mirror, but the reflection we see back staring at us, some of us don't love that person. Why? For I guess man himself is his worst enemy...no? If yes, then how to settle the dispute between the two?
Not entirely true...If there is a conflict then it means the person has an identity or a personality.
Whoa! Wait a min. Very provocative. How can there a conflict, when the person does have an identity or personality? Hmm... doesn't coflicts usually arise on the bases of contradictions? If there is an identity BoSS, then tell me how does the conflict comes in play? What is the conflict about? A conflict can happen, while trying to determine one set of establishment, and the need to have an identity and then trying to reason out that which is the best way to go. So say further how the conflict takes place when there is a individuality? Okay I'm game...
>>>No one likes a crying, depressed person, who lacks the ability to choose their dreams or doesn't has the ability to establish thier own identity.<<<
True.
smiles but u know what. The person at that stage, doesn't wants ppl around them at that instant, so it does gives a brighter side to him/her, for they need to figure themselves our before they're ready for the world to like them and invite them towards the glory of life.
Posted by Arch
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However, if by 'giving in' you mean to say that one should not accept the judgement of others about themselves, then once again it comes down to how much confidence/self esteem you have. Those with low self esteem will almost always give into what others think of them.. they will always try to fit into a picture of themselves which was painted by another person.*
Agreeing....yes, yes...and thats exactly what bothers me, is that how some ppl (and again not everyone) have a hard time to merge from the universal ocean of entire human race, and perhaps stand out from the remaining portion of the mortals. Ahem! Man, that didn't made much sense. Did it! humpf
Okay what I really am saying is that... some ppl have flat personalities? WHy? I mean, what initiates the sense of lower self esteem? (does that goes back to the phase of not getting enuf approval or affection from close ones in order to build a higher self image?) Okay what I really mean to say is that, do ppl really need the approval, confidence and be admired by the ones around them in order to have their inner confidence boosted up? Cudn't it be initiated by the inner self somehow with out looking for help from outside?
As you mentioned that you should love/accept yourself for who you are before you expect it from others, which I agree with. But that is so much easier said than done and requires a major battle between what you know and what your emotions tell you.
Ah! Agreed. Yes I agree with the part about being acknowledged about one's own deep inner most self, before merging back up to the surface, facing the outsiders strongly.
Been there done that! And I think any one can do it. THe irony is that, many of us just go about in life without realizing the essence of the fact that we've to discover our own potentials some time down the lane. For if we don't... don't u guys think, life is a waste?
Personally, I think that Judging others and being judged by others, are both deeply influenced by sociological and psychological factors. 'Judgement' isn't as shallow as people think it is.
Gives u a biggg pat Arch! Thank you so much! U'd not believe how much I've appreciated ur words here. They're brilliant.
See that last sentence of ur, 'Judgement' isn't as shallow as ppl think it is. Exactly!
A very, very worthy point brought in open, which is worth considering and I think we shud have that in the back of our mind. For its so natural.... the second we notice we're being judged, we start disliking it. For it can't be that bad as we think. It cud be for the better.
Till then,
Tah Tah!
DB:D
[This message has been edited by Daysee Behna (edited November 23, 2000).]
j.k.
sowwie if not)