Re: are you in polygamic marriage and share a partner
I know an uncle who is married to two women and its really sad. I feel horrible for his first wife. She got married really young to this uncle and had four kids with him. He then moved overseas due to work and tried to take his wife with him. She wanted to go but was kept behind by her inlaws. They said they needed someone to take care of them. So, she stayed behind and he left. While overseas he married another woman and had another family there.
All of his children from the first wife are married now so he considers his responsibility towards his first wife done. He said "tum logon ki shaadiyan hogayi hein...meri zimmidari tumhari maa or tum logon se ab khatam hochuki hai". I dont think thats true but can you imagine what his first wife went through? Completely desserted in her old age by her husband.
Luckily her children are there for her and take care of her now.
I guess in some cultures it works because its accepted but I just cant imagine life like that. You wait for years for the partner Allah swt has in store for you...to share him?