haan ji buhat khush hain....they love the food i make for them, they laugh at my jokes, they sometimes share their concerns with me, and love my kids.
then why do they bring you the cheap quality kapra? or more importantly, why does that bother you?
ps: no offence intended.. I had seen that thread of yours so this comment reminded me of that and the question popped up!!!
Trust me i have a lot of patience and i have been able to put up with their acts for the past 2 and half years but now i really really need the secret too - apart from buying them presents etc...
Sorry to put sour post on your thread!
it's only been 2.5 years...be a bit more patient perhaps?
I am saying this because I have seen how my sisters in-laws treated her.....8 years of marriage and 2 kids later (now she is married for 18 years and has 4 kids mashAllah) they finally started giving her the respect she deserved. That's what I call being patient.
then why do they bring you the cheap quality kapra? or more importantly, why does that bother you?
ps: no offence intended.. I had seen that thread of yours so this comment reminded me of that and the question popped up!!!
just because they buy her cheap kapra doesnt mean that Hareem has to ignore their good qualities. It's great that she can see those good qualities in them despite the bad ones.
Like i said above....for every bad quality a person has...I am sure one can find at least ONE good quality in them. If we focus on the good perhaps we can get over the bad?
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Angel Eyes.. you raised a very good point and as I mentioned earlier I didn't mean to offend her.. I was just curious regarding the situation. Also, the original question was are you happy with your in laws but the way she replied it's something like "yes they are happy with me because I am a very good daughter in law." However, in that other thread, she didn't want to be nice to her mil anymore!!!
Anyway, I could care less about anyone's personal issues.. May Allah Taala keep everyone happy in their lives.. Ameen!!
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No i wish i would be closer to theM...but that's my own fault.. oh well.......
very interesting thread...I think before we answer the question "are you happy with ur inlaws" we should first ask ourselves "are they (inlaws) happy with us) I believe taali duno hathon say bajti hai....I'm sure there are many things about me that my inlaws don't like...and vice versa.I lived with my inlaws for over a year and yes things weren't always perfect...many things bugged me but I always reminded myself k they are my husband parents...patience and tendency to compromise is the key...also to ignore their sarcastic comments...this took me the longest to apply....also my MIL is very protective about her sons...so I tried my best never to come in btw my hubby and her..for example...whenever we used to go out...I always asked her if she wants to come ( sometimes I did secretly prayed that she will say no :p)...another example is...I always encouraged my hubby to spend some time with his mom...so she won't feel that her son is drifting apart from her after marriage.my inlaws always praised me infront of their friends...all aunties were jealous of our relationship eventhough we knew inside that everything is not perfect but we never showed it to others...so I just want to say...where I was compromising with them...I'm sure they were doing the same...don't expect anything from them...cuz I know it hurts when they don't come true...just take what they give you and keep ur hubbys wallet in ur purse to fullfill ur expectations :D
very interesting thread...I think before we answer the question "are you happy with ur inlaws" we should first ask ourselves "are they (inlaws) happy with us) I believe taali duno hathon say bajti hai....I'm sure there are many things about me that my inlaws don't like...and vice versa.I lived with my inlaws for over a year and yes things .........................................................................................
Wow. Very nice perspective , the best so far.
No she’s not 
Ok she is but you know that she never means that in a negative way. I am not sure what specific example you have in mind, but I will mention one example:
When I used to come home from work and tried to go to kitchen to get something to eat (which is my habit because I get my own food instead of expecting it on the table), she would always stop me and ask you to get up and give me dinner (in a nice way). Or when you would wake up late on weekends and I used to be up before you, she would offer to make me breakfast but I would turn down the offer and wait for you. Again, she does not think ANYONE can care for her kids more/better than her and that’s juts any mom. It applies a bit more in her case because she raised 4 children in Pakistan all by herself while her husband was earning money for the family in the US. That’s why she’s extra protective.
She’s like that with anyone, remember when dad tries to daant us and how she jumps in the middle and takes the blame and calms things down? I miss my mommy 
lol…okeee mummy k munay..
solution. never get married 2 a mama's boy! :D
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whats wrong being a mama’s bhoy … i love me mah in bits 
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i am so far absolutely content with my in laws, al hamd Allah.
50% of our girls who come from the same husbands mothers family are i will not say happy but are satisfied coz they compromise with their in laws coz they know the familys!
girls like us who are outsiders are and will remain a thorn in the neck for the entire eternity!!!!
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I have been living with my inlaws since I got married and Alhamdulillah no complaints. They keep us involved in their life but as the same time let us have our own life and understand the need for our privacy and space. I know I am not the best DIL in the world but Alhamdulillah my MIL hase never criticized me or said anything mean and when she does have advice to share she does it in a gentle manner. I did not even know how to cook when I got married and I learnt most of it from my MIL. She is a patient teacher and I know even when my cooking didnt turn out as expected in the beginning she still always told me it tasted good to encourage me, which really meant alot to me. We will be moving out soon and they have been supportive and helpful of this too. My inlaws are not very cultural so maybe this is why they dont have some backward mentality when it comes to dealing with their bahu, Alhamdulillah, they have always been open minded and opened their heart and home to me. And they always keep good relations with my family as well, which is very important to me
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Most boys are mama's boys and most girls are daddy's girls .. its so sweet, lovely combinations!
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My relationship with in-laws is wonderful mashAllah so is hubby's with my parents.
As for your question Mirch, the key point is having respect for one another, most importantly! you can't love the new additions to family at the first sight but you CAN give respect. And obviously it has to be a two-way thing.