lots of people will see another persons wife or husband doing something that theirs doesnt do in a positive way and wish for a better spouse.
lot of people will see another persons wife or husband doing something in a negative way and thank god their spouse does.
but then, should we really just be grateful this way?
so if your male friends/bros/cosuins dont change nappies, dont cook, or clean, dont help around the house, dont do anything for themsleves AND your husband does, do you appreciate it?
if your female friends etc dont cook and clean but you do, do the husbands here appreciate that? are you glad you have them, or your still not as appreciative.
the obvious answer is YES you should appreciate your spouse no matter what, but the reality is I think everyone, at one point or another, looks at another person' spouse and thinks "DAMN THEY'RE LUCKY." Honestly I don't think that latter is very productive or healthy for any marriage, i think its better to look "down", ie look at those who aren't as fortunate in whatever way, and be thankful that your spouse doesn't do this or does do that.
it can cause alot of damage though if ure constantly comparing yourself as a couple to another couple, either by considering yourself lucky or worse off. You have who you have.
No, I have never been inspired by anyone else’s spouse. Alhamdulillah I am so grateful for who I have even though sometimes I wanna do mean things to him but deep down inside, I could never imagine anyone else for me, in any way.
very much gratefull to Allah every one has bad and good deeds so u cant say every one has there own style of expressing.That dont mean i just start thiniking is say to accha hona chiye tha ya asa.
Just eternally eternally grateful for the Huband that Allah swt has provided for me.
I Would never want/need/desire/be attracted to/dream about/wish for/look up to and be impressed by any other man. No other man would even compare.
We are not perfect ourselves, but we make the best of what Allah SWT has provided. I don't think a healthy marriage is to compare your husband/wife to other people, it just creates further insecurities.
I think when we are made to think about it we have much cause to be very grateful to our spouses, but I guess where we fail is that in our day to day lives we neither remind ourselves of this or make it known to our spouses that we are grateful as well. Here is my great failing ... and my opportunity ... hareem01 ... I am indeed grateful for you and sorry for ever making you feel that I am not.
^ When you remain disapproving of me then I'll continue to seek it ... the moment you show approval then I might stop seeking it. If I really am good then I should continue seeking your approval despite this ... but you'll never know if you continue disapproving. :)
but deep down inside, I could never imagine anyone else for me, in any way.
