A Joint Family System, would u mind in living in one… girls esp. i wanna know ure views and comments.
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A Joint Family System, would u mind in living in one..... girls esp. i wanna know ure views and comments.
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Well.. I am not a gal..
Will fully Suport JFS...
Buhut fayday haiN.. Especialy in a society where U canot go out of HOuse for long and cant keep Ur wife alone at home.. or if U have small kids.. there must be someone who can take care of them...
Secondly.. If Wife is a working lady.. and she have a kid.. tou ussko sanbhalna JFS maiN kafi asan hay..
Well lots of other faiday too :)
thanx :k:
There are more pros to living in a JFS than there are cons. I would support it.
I don't support it, since I have heard a million things about JFS. Since your every move has to be watched not only by u but from others as well. You have to follow every bit of rules and you can't do what u really wanna do, you have to think about others if they don't have as much as u have then mostly you get pressurize to provide them with it. I don't mind living with the family, but I can't stand internal family affairs, where u r dragged in, although u were never part of any fights. I rather live outside of the circle and still support them. Distance brings u closer, thats my opinion.
I am for the joint family system, mainly because I think that at least one child should live with their parents, not just for sahara but for company, I know that when I grow old, that I would want one of my kids to be still living at home.
At home these days, our house is so quiet, there is my paents, me and my younger brother, I have an older brother and sister who are both married, my older brother lives abroad and my sister locally. My mum didnt want my brother to move abroad, since he went the house is so quiet and my mum is so lonely now that my sister in law is away.
I know that there are problem with living in a joint family such as lack of privacy and interferance but these can be overcome if handled in the correct manner.
totally against it my belief is thoree buhat duuri zaroori hai warna dilon mein duriyaan ho jaatee hain i know this first hand iss liye i don wanna be in one my mothers family (that is my maternal side) lives in a joint family system and trust me everyone got problens :@
they both have pros and cons. It depends on what you want. If you live on a farm then a joint family system works very well. If you live in a city, it probably doesn’t. You don;t have to live with your parents to give them a good life. Conversely, if you can afford to and if your parents choose to live with you when they are old then that is great.
And unlike in your pind, in the rest of the world, you are the man of the house, it is of your making so parents are living with you. Just as when you were growing up, you were living with your parents. Subtleties, I know…but you will learn. 
It depends on the situation and how well the hubby dearest gets along with his fam.
time changes everything anyways, so its hard to say when you aint married nor have a man
it works for some people and it doesnt for others.
go for the joint family system until ur kids start going to school....
cuz then they'd need peace of mind and with a joint family, shor sharaba is definitely to come in....
and that can effect the child....
but, even if siblings r parted, i'd never think of living without the parents...
and if all the kids think that they dont wanna let their parents live alone then joint family is the only solution....
so the compromise is actually on parents' rights or kids' rights....
and in my dictionary parents' rights cant be compromised....
I am totally against the joint family systsm.
I started my married life in a jointfamily atmosphere. Got to say it was a roller coaster ride. Now I live separate. Thinking back now I would say joint family system is better for the kids. If I have to, I will merge again with my inlaws (just mother & father in law), as long as my hubby will balance it well. We do have to realize that in old age parents too become like kids again!
My dad wants us three brothers to live in seperate houses BUT he also wants us to meet each other very often. I think that's the best way. You don't have to live in the same house because as Kaun said, dilon mein dooriyan barh jaati hain and misunderstandings start taking place. So I would agree with my dad: Live in seperate house but they may be right next to each other or you can go to each other's house once or twice in a week. Don't stop meeting your siblings or supporting them, but just have some privacy in your own house.
i'm for it completely and totally, i dono, its just happier and nicer when everyone is together. everything in the world is aani jaani, our loved ones are all we really got. and wouldnt it be wonderful to have them with u at all times.
Offcourse..Joint Family System.
Its like...Take it or leave it.
I used to live in one when I was young, but I was too young to remember the adv. and disadv. of the joint family system :) I do like the fact when grandparents live w/ their grand kids or are close by so the kids can learn from them. I learned a lot from my grandmother and when I moved, I always missed that pillar of support and comfort :(
Otherwise I agree with Shikra. Be close by so you can be there for your family to share their joys and sorrows but living together can cause great problems from what I've seen :)
my brother will probably move out as soon as he gets his job..i never get along with him but i wouldnt mind if he wanted to live together..thats not going to happen though
but there is no way i m leaving my parents..i won't mind if they spend couple of months with brother and couple of months in pakistan..but they have to spend most of the time with us