By better off i mean:
Emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, socially etc.
Do you think you lead a happirt life now after marriage since you have a husband who supports & loves you or a wife who caters to your needs or you loved it more how your parents had pampered you. I have heard many girls say that they get proper peaceful sleep when they go back to their parents house. Do you find your parent’s house more peaceful still?
Overall, the love that your parents gave you is nothing compared to how you have to live with in-laws or even if independently when you have all the responsibilities, so do you miss that time often or you think the time you are with your husband/wife now is the best!
Re: Are you better off after marriage or you were before it?
I think I am more happy with my husband and kids AH.Its not I was not happy with my parents but the thing is everything has its time,when I was young I loved being pampered from my parents but as you grow older you feel the need to have a partner and life of your own and you love it when your partner pampers you. So I was happy with my parents when I was young but with passing time AH I am blessed that I have a partner who pampers and loves me too.
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it has its ups and downs, but without husband i wouldnt have had my lil babyyyy fatima , whom i could die for.
also seeing how alot of men, and hearing how alot of men treat women/their wives, my husband is a gem mashallah. alot of men treat their wives decently, but wont pitch in with say housework, kids, shopping etc...my husband does all these things, even when hes tired from work, he will come home and look after the baby, while i rest, even though i havent done s*** all all day..lol well apart from look after the baby, which isnt rocket science now.so i reallly appreciate it now.
eg today- i literally sneezed twice, and husband said jao araam karo, sojao il have fatima tonight, tum rest karo..... i only sneezed.......
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it has its ups and downs, but without husband i wouldnt have had my lil babyyyy fatima , whom i could die for.
also seeing how alot of men, and hearing how alot of men treat women/their wives, my husband is a gem mashallah. alot of men treat their wives decently, but wont pitch in with say housework, kids, shopping etc...my husband does all these things, even when hes tired from work, he will come home and look after the baby, while i rest, even though i havent done s*** all all day..lol well apart from look after the baby, which isnt rocket science now.so i reallly appreciate it now.
eg today- i literally sneezed twice, and husband said jao araam karo, sojao il have fatima tonight, tum rest karo..... i only sneezed.......
bless him.
Aww Masha Allah! I am so happy for you Nadz. So you think you are happier and more satisfied after marriage.
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The meaning of happiness is different before and after marriage.
No comparison can be made.
Even if happiness means differently, the feeling of satisfaction or feeling content with your life and seeing a better future is a great feeling. Some women feel after marriage the whole load of a lot of responsibility is difficult to maintain therefore, its not as enjoyable as single life was but other think that having a partner who pampers them is nothing compared to the freedom of single-hood.
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I believe being married and having children makes a person 'satisfied' not dissimilarly to how it feels after achieving something. It is like getting a feather in the cap, or a tick in the box that you have done what was expected from you now you can concentrate on what you 'want' to do rather than what you are expected to do.
Many unmarried people or people without children apart from the emotional need may feel anxious for not being in a position to tick those boxes. The reasons are complex and I'm no way saying that one state is better or worse because these things are out of our hands to a certain extent. My point being that the satisfaction in simply getting married is often enough to make people feel they are 'happier' than they were before marriage, this might be more significant for those who had no expectations for marriage rather than those who went in to marriage with preconceived ideas about it.
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Exactly. :k:
I was better off emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, socially etc. before I got married and now after I got married I am living happily ever after, no complaints from life ,Alhumdulillah. I pray to Allah(SWT) it remains same way all my life. Ameen.
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Financially i was better before marriage but even after marriage Alhumdulliah we r doing okay till my husband gets a job. Emotionally, physcially and socially I am dong much better after marriage because I have someone to share everything with and we have a beautiful baby girl who is a blessing for us. I think every phase in life is different. When i was single and living with parents it was more pampering and getting whatever I want. Living with husband I still get everything but I have duties and responsibilities so it teaches you a lot about life and every phase you go through.
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Before Marriage I was a lone wolf…
People feared me becuase I was a wanderer I could be free to come and go without any roots anywhere… No reason to show loyalty to anyone and free to be who I want to be…
Emotionally and mentally, socially I was all to myself and my small band of cronies…
But now I’m considered a gem in society and a model citizen… LOL
All becuase I’m married and becuase I am no longer as mobile as I once was… but then again I’ve got something that I am stuck with and frankly I dont want to go anywhere any more.
