Re: ARE YOU A FORGIVER OR AVENGER?
A bit of both. I will let things slide.....but I don't forget. I might forgive....but I don't forget. You won't learn anything if you decide to forget things.
As far as revenge is concerned.....I don't harm people. I don't do the same to them as they did to me because I don't want to stoop to their level. BUT when I've had enough....I will sometimes talk to the person calmly about their persistent and thoughtless transgressions and put them in their place. And it actually works, sometimes (if the person has a conscience). If I'm dealing with someone who is absurdly arrogant and incapable of change....I will avoid them and pray that Allah will teach them a lesson.