About life, about marriage, relationships, parenting these days?
Was watching Hitchcock’s “rear window” and there was a conversation about how people miss so many great opportunities in life because they waste so much time on every excuse they can think of. The other side of the argument was that it is better to analyse in-depth than to jump at the opportunity.
So which one is it? Are we over-analytical and if so, is it a good thing?
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Its all about balance realy, sometimes its good to jump at an opportunity and sometimes one should think and analyze
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But if we're over-analytical as a society, then surely not many people know how to balance it?
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oh ur talking about on a social level...hmm..well in that case, it's a good thing to err on the side of caution (at least thats what I believe being analytical/overanalytical entails....being cautious and careful)
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Well, when making decisions like who to wed, yes it is about being cautious and careful. But I recently read a post in the parenting forum which said something like how parents now need the help of textbooks and tv shows to discipline their kids. Whatever happened to natural parenting skills? There are actual centres out there teaching parents the natural parenting skills! Hence the question - have we complicated things for ourselves?
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You could be over or under analytical, If any is beneficial at the given time, nobody would care if you're either.
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Aap kay bus bheja hee nahi sochnay kay liye
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Aap kay bus? At least I haz a bheja to write proper urdu! 
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Practice makes perfect, atleast he’s trying to recover and chooses not to give up on urdu, despite the latter being easier. 
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BBQ- define over analytical in your question.
analyzing too much on the right variables
analyzing the wrong or unnecessary variables
a combo of both?
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Exodus: Rightio!
X2: Analyzing unnecessary variables or purposely trying to find faults in someone/something thereby complicating the decision-making process for yourself. And once the decision has been made e.g. the decision to wed someone, the decision to have kids, then again complicating the relationships for yourself because you're over-thinking it. I gave an example above related to parenting - why didn't our parents need to take parenting lessons but now there are actual centres out there teaching us natural parenting skills? Have we complicated relationships for ourselves by over-analysing them?
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Well marriage is a big deal/decision to me, so if anything, i'd rather over than under analyze.
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we need to take parenting lessons so our kids don't turn out like us and thus have to take parenting lessons :)
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Well marriage is a big deal/decision to me, so if anything, i'd rather over than under analyze.
you have a point because you have to look at pros and cons of each decision
if the danger of overanalyzing is that you may miss out on some good people, is that less or more of an issue than under analyzing and ending up with a muppet...
i think in such cases the risks of under analyzing are significant compared to the risks of under analyzing
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Yup agree with that. But then, over-analyzing a rishta to some might mean digging up the family history but to me it means something like "oh but he/she is too bubbly"...
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like most things, a balance is important.
and what may seem minor to you or I may be a big deal for someone and then having to deal with it for the rest of their life may become a pain for themselves and the spouse in either dealing with it or butting heads in trying to change something, not changing enough per one and too much by another.
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I think I am overly analytical. And no, I don't think it's good.
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True. So the overall conclusion is, it is okay to be over-analytical. It is better to miss out on a good opportunity than to rush into a bad one. There'll be more opportunities ahead and our experiences will teach us how to better tackle them.
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I think I am overly analytical. And no, I don't think it's good.
Why not?
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What if you "jump at the opportunity" and find yourself facing consequences/predicaments that you would have come up with had you taken the time to "analyze" the situation?
And sometimes the decisions that you make cannot be made so quicly becasue they will affect OTHER people besides yourself...or they may come into conflict with the schedules/needs/well-being of others. Look at the pros and cons....if there's more good than bad...go for it. But how will you even determine that...if you don't do some "analyzing". It need not be "over" analyzing.....but some amount of "thinking through" usually takes place.