Are we in Denial?

Sara516 · December 21, 2010, 12:49am

Re: Are we in Denial?

I don’t know if you meant the unacceptability of divorce as a positive or negative. In some cases it’s needed and I know two people in my family who have had divorces and it’s not that big a deal. But a lack of acceptance of divorce can be a good thing. Many older couples stuck through hard times because it was unacceptable to divorce and also the women couldn’t afford to leave their husbands. In the article I read, all couple who stuck it out (50+ years) are happy they didn’t divorce. And this was for Americans.

We have a lot of options and often have a me first attitude which is a recipe for disaster. How many people honestly know what’s good for them and then MAKE that choice. We often take the easy way out.

One more point which the women will hate is that nowadays girls are more assertive. I’m not saying women who get abused shouldn’t speak up, but** women even 20-30 years ago stuck it out a lot more than today. My mom put up with a horrible MIL, a decrease in her standard of living and moving to a new country with my dad. Now, me and my siblings are doing better academically etc than pretty much all our cousins and my parents are more secure financially than most in our family.**

Reading some of the threads here makes me think that half of the women on here would not have stayed. That said, my dad is a lot more liberal than regular desi guys (helps cook, clean etc) so that’s a factor as well.

While I may nto agree with all the points you definitely bring up interestingpoints.

Also, the bit in bold, I think that’s the story of almost every woman from our parents generation, I know so many women who were abused and put up with stuff that women from our generation would never put up with…but somehow, according to them, things changed for the better after 10 years almost overnight and they’re glad they stuck it out…so who knows.

Ending a marriage isn’t an easy decision to make and 99% of the time, alot of thought and consideration goes into making that choice.