Online and offline You would hear loads of people complaining about their problems that have made them restless. Their situation makes you cry and you can’t help but feel sorry for them. You also can’t resist sharing your views as you desperately wish to humbly support them in realizing something that might be the core of the problem (learning from your past experience). Yet, you can’t! because you feel your answer might offend them. They might think that you are judging them. Even if you have that understanding with them yet things become very difficult because no one wants to hear that:
"My this particular suffering is obviously because of my that particular violation of my own ‘faith’. When a person leaves the ways of his ideal, he suffers from the respective consequences "
We all are humans and make mistakes. We obviously mostly know where we went wrong in reference to the the lifestyle of our Ideal (a complete way of life that covers all aspects and situations), but isn’t it good to at least humbly accept our disobedience/carelessness as the first step towards correcting ourselves, so that we may be blessed with divine guidance i.e. Barakah in life & relationships. So many people have guided me by correcting my actions and warning me about the consequences, then is there any reason I should give them a look:
“Please, keep my own faith aside while helping/advising me, and tell me the solution in reference to modern lifestyle in society (also presented by the media) that is totally different than my own belief system (by birth)”
p.s. Why do we need to totally put aside our own faith when dealing with daily LIFE related problems, while there is no problem in giving reference to hollywood bollywood movies. One example could be, you might immediately see someone mentioning that this thread belongs to religion forum. (even if the main discussion is about life and relationship problems)
Re: Are we confused when dealing with life & relationship problems ?
No one can claim that s/he is more religious than others. Only the Almighty knows what is in the heart.
Isn't the purpose of the 'religion' itself the solution to life & relationship problems. Even those who claim to be non-religious are actually following the rules of religion (nikah, marriage, Janaza, bathing the dead before burial, reciting Quran...etc.). Our non-religiousness didn't taught us that we can't marry our sister and mother, that we shouldn't lie, shouldn't cheat, shouldn't betray, shouldn't kill,....the awareness of it wasn't there in the pre-religion era (if there were any). All these rules and principles that we unintentionally follow actually came with the manual given to us by the creator. Human can't himself realize that he is different from pigs, unless educated by the Creator, through the prophets.
Re: Are we confused when dealing with life & relationship problems ?
Some of use are confused people in general. We can solve all our problems by just strengthening our relationship with our creator. We would not really need to ask anyone if we used prayer to solve our problems. We believe Allah's our creator his always there for us yet we hardly turn to him. Something goes wrong and we start thinking of all the people we can turn to to ask for help.
Re: Are we confused when dealing with life & relationship problems ?
Agreed. But it is not just about strengthening the relationship with creator (through prayers), but also to seek guidance from the lifestyle of the one whom HE has declared a role model for us in every situation. The creator gave us a manual and told us the name of the human who followed the manual in the PERFECT manner. We just need to refer to his ways and lifestyle quite often.
There is no such thing as more religious and less religious, but more practicing and less practicing. The more you practice your faith, the more benefits you get from it in life and relationships. The less you practice it, the more difficulties you face in life and relationships.
The more thoroughly you use the manual of any machinery, the better you utilize it without facing many difficulties. But if one tries to avoid the manual given by the creator of the machinery and tries to use one's own mind, the of course the machinery would keep giving errors and problems time and again, unless we refer back to the original manual. We can never think better than the creator in how to deal with it.
Re: Are we confused when dealing with life & relationship problems ?
There is nothing wrong in turning to people for asking for help. I do it many times a day. But the problem is which "type" of advice do we prefer. The one that is in accordance to the modern lifestyle (shown in movies and dramas) or the one that is in accordance to the lifestyle of our role models.