Are there any/many socially liberal open minded Pakistani girls/guys?

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Re: Are there any/many socially liberal open minded Pakistani girls/guys?

@zainykhan

It just depends.. Being liberal will vary for every individual.. What may be acceptable for you may not be for others, what may be for others may not be for you.. So its very subjective I guess.

Circumstances also make a difference.. Like Geezer mentioned above, a guy/girl may be judgmental of past relationships if they didn’t have any, but if they did it may not matter as much.

We are all judged I supposed, someone wears sleeveless top, they will be judged and people my say at least wear half sleeved. If one was half sleeved then its like at least wear long sleeved, if you wear long sleeved then its like wheres the abaaya, if you wear aabaya where is the niqaab? this was just a clothing example but, it really depends on the individual.

But yes what does vary is the level of tolerance.. I may have differing views, ways, practices, beliefs to others.. But can one have enough tolerance to live with a partner with differing views/styles? Does tolerance mean, being accepting to others belief even if you dont believe it but is someone intolerant if you can ‘stand’ it but reject the rishta on those grounds?

True Zainy It is all a spectrum even with clothes. I meant liberal as in even if you don’t agree with something you are ok with others who accept it. You don’t judge their world view as beng worse tha yours. Like with a lot of people in west we know pre marital relationships or live in relationships happen but even if we don’t agree with it we understand and don’t judge the people who engage in it. Who knows in a similar way they may judge us.

I agree if they didn’t have any they might not judge. Though I remember even when I had not engaged in any relationships I was open minded towards women who had. I never felt that a female having a previous partner made her less worthy of a relationship. People make mistakes, they change and I’m not perfect. There are other more important factors for marriage than one’s interaction with opposite sex.
I think tolerance is having different views but accepting views of others. For example if I had a wife who wanted to wear sleeveless, half sleeved, or hijab I wouldn’t stop her choices. I would hope she wouldn’t ask me to have a beard and so on. So for personal relationships I would prefer someone with similar level of religiousness to me. If we happen to evolve and grow with relationship we can adjust with time.

I think the rishta process can be more modernised and individualised rather than just a market where u look for someone with your criteria. I’d rather we look at entire person.